Mindfulness Anytime

FeaturedMindfulness Anytime

Mindfulness is a translation of a word that simply means awareness. It’s a direct, intuitive knowing of what you are doing while you are doing it. It’s knowing what’s going on inside your mind and body, and what’s going on in the outside world as well. There are now thousands of research studies into the uses of mindfulness, and professionals are using mindfulness in Boardrooms, Schools, Prisons, Court rooms and hospitals across the world.  Here are few simple things that you can so anytime anywhere to be more mindful. 

  1. Think Breathing : Breathe in, hold for three counts and exhale. Count seven breaths.
  2. Mindful Drinking : Kick start your body, mix hot water, lemon and cayenne pepper. Taste it.
  3. Do one thing at a time : When eating, just eat, wen checking emails, just check emails.
  4. Notice you senses : What are two things you can taste, touch, smell, hear, right now?
  5. Deep listening : Listen completely and contemplate your response. 
  6. Mindful Eating : Turn of all distractions, explore the textures, flavors and temperature. 
  7. Mindful Walking : Feel your feet connecting with the ground.
  8. Body Scan time : Bring your attention to your body, send the breath to any areas of tension. 

Arent they all simple and doable? Start with one or two exercise everyday and see the change in yourself. Let me know your thoughts. Leave us a comment. 

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Self Reflection – Happy Wednesday

FeaturedSelf Reflection – Happy Wednesday

It’s the middle of the week and already I am tired and overwhelmed. Well we all have weeks like these. Quite often people wait for holidays or weekends for self reflection. In my opinion though, self reflection is of utmost importance during the middle of a busy week. 

“The true purpose of self-reflection is to correct our mistaken thoughts and actions, and learn from them, thereby creating a more constructive life. Self-reflection is not just the simple act of discovering past mistakes and making up for these mistakes, like resetting a negative to zero. The ultimate objective of self-reflection is the development of a more positive self and the realization of a utopia on earth as the fulfillment of God’s will.”

~ From the book: Ten Principles of Universal Wisdom

Let us look at some habits which we can inculcate for self reflection and personal growth 

  1. Be honest : Being honest with yourself about how things are going and how you are behaving.
  2. Notice Behaviour Patterns : Be aware of your habit so you can actively weaken the ones you don’t want and strengthen the ones you do want.
  3. Be Able to articulate your core values : Take time to consider what’s most important to you so that you can evaluate whether or not you’re living those values.
  4. Be forgiving : Be gentle with yourself when you don’t get it right. We all make mistakes. 
  5. Keep track of your self-reflection : Start a journal where you record you observations and monitor your personal growth. 

So you do have a self -reflection routine? Share here with the larger community to help others. Looking forward to your comments :). Happy Wednesday!

Divergent Thinking – Root of Creativity

FeaturedDivergent Thinking – Root of Creativity

A research piece promoted by rockstar educationalist, Sir Ken Robinson, attempted to quantify by just how much we actually sucked at divergent thinking. What I have gathered from various research papers is that nurturing of your divergent skills is a lifelong project. So here are a few suggestions.

  1. Write things down : Not all your ideas will be worthwhile, but they might trigger new ideas. Make a list of your thoughts.
  2. Watch for accidents : You can sometimes make the best discoveries when you’re searching for something else.
  3. Reverse the polarity : Write down as many assumptions about the problem as you can think if. Reverse them.
  4. Think in metaphors : A metaphor is a link between two dissimilar things. They open up the creative side of the brain. 
  5. Arrange blind dates : Use “combinatory play” to throw unrelated ideas together to see if they create a new idea.
  6. Steal from other domains : Explore how an idea from one industry or discipline could be adapted to another.
  7. Start from a different place : While the worst ideas can never be the best idea, it will take your imagination to a different staring place.
  8. Think in pictures : Visual thinking can strip a problem down to its essence, leading to profoundly simple connections.
  9. Ask simple questions : Challenge assumptions by posing simple questions. Questions and curiosity kickstart creativity. 

So what type of a thinker are you? Convergent or Divergent? 

Meditation Is Important

FeaturedMeditation Is Important

Intense meditation practices help to achieve a harmony between body and mind. Meditation practices influence brain functions, induce various intrinsic neural plasticity events, modulate autonomic, metabolic, endocrine, and immune functions and thus mediate global regulatory changes in various behavioral states including sleep.

Here are certain fun facts about meditation

  1. Improves Brain Power : It increases gray matter. Brains scans of participants in a meditation stay by Yale. Harvard and Mass General Hospital showed increase in gray matter in parts of the brain, and that meditation may slow natural brain deterioration. The parts of the brain with increased gray matter thickness are related to attention and processing sensory input.
  2. Improves Brain Plasticity : A study of mindfulness meditation practitioners showed an increase in the number of neurons in the brain’s hippocampus (related to learning and memory) and a reduction in the volume of the amygdala (related to anxiety and stress) after just eight weeks. Similar studies have shown increases in the number of the neurons and neuronal connections in the right frontal cortex (concentration), the right insula (emotions), and the right parietal and temporal lobes (touch and sound). 
  3. Improves Sleep : Researchers reported that experienced meditators slept fewer hours than non-meditators and the general population, but were no less alert. Separate research has found that meditation may be an effective behavioral intervention in the treatment of insomnia. 
  4. Lowers Blood Pressure : In reviewing existing existing research, the American Heart Association in 2013 concluded that transcendental meditation lowers blood pressure. High blood pressure (hypertension) contributes to the hardening of the arteries, and to the developmental of heart failure. 

Still thinking if you should make meditation as a daily habit? Think again!!

Let me know your thoughts on meditation. Looking forward to your comments. 

Happy Sunday > Positive Affirmations

FeaturedHappy Sunday > Positive Affirmations

Any action is a reflection of thoughts and the thoughts are directed by a positive or a negative approach. You can become a successful person, if you are influenced to induce your thoughts.  The results of researches show that the working patterns of your body and your thoughts are interconnected with each other.  If you are endowed with a positive frame of mind, you will be able to lift your spirit.  Here are certain positive thoughts for you to consider. Just reading them carefully will uplift your mood and bring you some calm. 

  1. There is no one better to be than myself.
  2. I am enough.
  3. I get better every single day.
  4. I am an amazing person.
  5. All of my problems have solutions.
  6. Today I am a leader.
  7. I forgive myself for my mistakes.
  8. My challenges help me grow.
  9. I am perfect just the way I am.
  10. My mistakes help me learn and grow.
  11. Today is going to be a great day.
  12. I have courage and confidence. 
  13. I can control my own happiness.
  14. I have people who love and respect me.
  15. I stand up for what I believe in.
  16. I believe in my goals and dreams.
  17. It’s okay not to know everything.
  18. Today I choose to think positive.
  19. I can get through anything.
  20. I can do anything I put my mind to.
  21. I give myself permission to make choices. 
  22. I can do better next time.
  23. I have everything I need right now.
  24. I am capable of so much.
  25. Everything will be okay.
  26. I am free to make my own choices.
  27. I deserve to be loved.
  28. I can make a difference.
  29. Today I choose to be confident.
  30. I am in charge of my life.
  31. I have the power to make my dreams come true.
  32. I believe in myself and my abilities. 
  33. Good things are going to come to me.
  34. I matter.
  35. My confidence grows when I step outside of my comfort zone. 
  36. My positive thoughts create positive feelings.
  37. Today I will walk through my fears.
  38. I am open and ready to learn.
  39. Everyday is a fresh start.
  40. If I fell, I will get back up again.
  41. I am whole.
  42. I only compare myself to myself.
  43. I can do anything.
  44. It is enough to do my best.
  45. I can be anything I want to be.
  46. I accept who I am.
  47. Today is going to be an awesome day. 
  48. My strength is greater than my struggle.
  49. I’m fearless.
  50. I can do this. 

Did you feel the shift in your peace within. A small ray of positivity goes a long way. I am so excited to read your thoughts on affirmations. Do leave me comment. 

Listen To Your Emotions

FeaturedListen To Your Emotions

The trick in dealing with big, powerful, or troubling emotional states is to understand first that emotions are always true(about something), but they’re not always right. Here is a list of emotions that you should look out for. See what they are telling you. 

  1. Bitterness shows you where you need to heal, where you’re still holding judgements on others and yourself.
  2. Resentment shows you where you’re living in the past and not allowing the present to be as it is.
  3. Discomfort shows you that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening, because you’re being given the opportunity to change, to do something different than you typically do it. 
  4. Anger shows you what you’re passionate about, where your boundaries are, and what you believe needs to change about the world.
  5. Disappointment shows you that you tried for something, that you did not give in to apathy, that you still care.
  6. Guilt shows you that you’re still living life in other people’s expectations of what you should do.
  7. Shame shows you that you’re internalizing other people’s beliefs about who you should be and that you need to reconnect with yourself.
  8. Anxiety shows you that you need to wake up, right now, and that you need to be present, that you’re stuck in the past and living in fear of the future. 
  9. Sadness shows you the depth of your feelings, the depth of your care for others and this world. 

Do you agree with these meanings? 

 

How to Stay Happy

FeaturedHow to Stay Happy

Happiness is your birth right, it is your natural state of being, it is the essence of living, it is what we were born to do. Stay Happy. But then there are rainy days, not the ones which encourage umbrella and raincoats, but the downs in life. The heavy rains of life can fall suddenly and pour incessantly for long periods of time and for too many reasons to list here. But let’s focus on being happy on such a rainy day, shall we? So what do we do about it? Here is a list of things you could do stay balanced in life everyday and even on those bad days. 

  1. Express Gratitude > Thank someone and be appreciate towards your colleagues, every single day.
  2.  Give > Give something to another person or make it possible for others to offer gifts.
  3. Help > Help someone who is in need of assistance, or enable people to help each other.
  4. Eat Well > Eat well, and make good, healthy foods easily available for everyone.
  5. Exercise > Exercise and work out regularly and make it easy for people to take care of their bodies.
  6. Rest > Rest well, sleep sufficiently, and enable people to refresh their minds
  7. Experience > Experience new things, try stuff out, and let people run all kinds of experiments.
  8. Hike > Hike outdoors, enjoy nature, and allow people an escape from the office and the city.
  9. Meditate > Meditate and get people to learn and adopt mindfulness practices. 
  10. Socialize > Socialize, relate to other people, and make it easy for colleagues to develop connections.
  11. Aim > Aim for a goal and get people to understand and realize their won purpose.
  12. Smile > Smile whenever you can, appreciate humor, and get colleagues to engage in fun activities. 

The possible responses to such a question can be legion. I would still love to hear from you in the comments about how you have managed to stay happy during the rainy times of your life. What advice would you offer others who were going through hard times?

Bad Mood? Fuck it!!!

FeaturedBad Mood? Fuck it!!!

Eye rolling. Door slamming. Loud sighing. Unexplained yelling. Everyone gets in bad moods sometimes – they are a part of life. Feeling cranky and irritable for no real reason can happen to the best of us. Here are some simple, effective methods for improving their state of mind:

  1. Read some inspirational quotes.
  2. Clean you your environment. De-clutter.
  3. Drinks Lots of Water. Stay Hydrated.
  4. Lighten up! Good lighting and brightness can bring up your mood.
  5. So something small that will make you feel productive.
  6. Take deep breaths. Meditate.
  7. Make sure your hygiene is in check.
  8. Wear something that you feel good on.
  9. Get some fresh air.
  10. Talk to someone, especially a friend you know will try to cheer you up. 
  11. Listen to some up beat happy music. Sing along and dance. 
  12. So some light exercise.
  13. So something that usually makes you happy. 

So they seem simple & helpful? I am excited to know about what you to change your mood? Do share in the comments. 

Build A Positive Mindset

FeaturedBuild A Positive Mindset

The “power of positive thinking” is a popular concept, and sometimes it can feel a little cliché. Being an optimist can be hard for some people and sometimes you just don’t know where to start with being positive. Here are a few pointers which you may find useful.

  1. Identify : First you really need to identify why are in a negative mindset. What thoughts do you have when you identify something as bad instead of neutral or good? Do you have certain beliefs in yourself?
  2.  Gratitude Journal : You should write down at least 5 things you are grateful for everyday. I personally write whole list of things that I am grateful for when I feel like I’m in the wrong mood. 
  3. Meditate : This will help you with overthinking. Meditation lowers your stress and can help you to be more positive. Meditating 20 minutes/day had not only an effect on your mood but also your body.
  4. Get Rid of Toxic : There are always things that you think about too much. Cut negative and toxic people out of your life. You don’t need them. This will make the biggest difference in your life. 
  5. Surround Yourself : After you cut out toxic people and your negative past your should find more positive things to surround yourself with. I frequently unfollow people who don’t inspire me.
  6. Affirmation : To keep the positivity high you should continue to form a positive mindset through positive and motivation self talk. I personally love affirmation and use them a lot with my meditation.

Did you like the list. Do leave me a comment 🙂

Oath Of Manifestation

FeaturedOath Of Manifestation

Manifestation has become a buzzword lately. Though it’s totally awesome that the Law of Attraction is now trendy, it also can be a bit misleading for folks who are unwilling to do the heavy lifting. If you truly want to use your energetic power to manifest greatness, you must clear all that blocks you from believing in your greatness.

Use this Oath to make your dreams your reality.

I accept & receive 

  • unexpected good
  • unexpected money 
  • unexpected love
  • unexpected kindness
  • unexpected prosperity
  • coming in unexpected ways
  • from unexpected places.

in my life and the life of others.

I am constantly guided, and bodily empowered to receive the lavish abundance of the universe!

I accept the principle that abundance and prosperity have already been given to me.

My acceptance makes it real and open the space for manifestation to rush in!

I open wide the doors of my consciousness to receive and to give!

IT IS DONE NOW!

 

 

 

 

Habits of Best Conversationalists

FeaturedHabits of Best Conversationalists

Good conversationalists have great influence. In this post, I share few strategies I have learned for having better conversations.

  1. Be Genuinely Interested in the person. Strive to know more about him/her through the conversation.
  2. Focus on the positives. Opt for positives and meaningful topics over negative ones. 
  3. Converse, not debate (or argue). Where there are differences, agree to disagree.
  4. Respect, don’t impose, criticize, or judge. Respect other space and right to their views.
  5. Put the person in his/her best light. Make the person look good (without being unauthentic).
  6. Embrace differences while building on commonalities. 
  7. Be true to yourself. Don’t mime; be ready to share your own thoughts.
  8. 50-50 sharing. Don’t dominate the discussion. At the same time, don’t hold back from sharing either.
  9. Ask purposeful questions. What drives you in life? What are your current goals? What inspired you to make this change? Meaningful questions elicit meaningful answers. 
  10. Give and Take. Don’t be too critical over what other say/do. Always give others the benefit of the doubt. 

Did you like this list? Do you follow any of the above or do you have your own Do’s and Don’ts. Do share in the comments section. 

Your Miracle Morning

FeaturedYour Miracle Morning

From CEOs to stay at home moms, The Miracle Morning is transforming thousands of people’s lives everyday, allowing already successful individuals to go to the next level, while enabling those who are enduring times of struggle to make major breakthroughs in any — or quite literally every area of their lives.

Here are my takeaways from El Halrod, The Miracle Morning.  Please note that the best time to practice these are before 8AM. Hate me already? Just wait and read on

1.Clear Your Mind : Clear your mind and start your day in peace, meditation, prayer, reflection, deep breathing, gratitude.

2. Affirmations : Say affirmations which are positive statements, which you repeat to yourself in a way to support your success. The repetition of affirmations leads to belief.

3. Visualize : Close your eyes, or look at a vision board of inspiring images, and use your imagination to create mental pictures of what you want in your life, who your need to be to create what you want, and what you need to do to get there.

4. Exercise : When you exercise in the morning it significantly boosts you energy, enhanced your health, and improves self confidence and emotional wellbeing.

5. Read : Mirror the people and the stories, which you admire. Read something which inspires you and which will enhance an area of your life.

6. Journal : Journaling enables you to document your insights, ideas, breakthroughs, realizations, successes and lessons learned. 

So what is your idea of a miracle morning? Do leave me a comment 🙂 

 

Anxiety is a BITCH!!

FeaturedAnxiety is a BITCH!!

The Internet abounds in information and misinformation about panic attacks, phobias, and other anxiety disorders — including promises of quick cures that require up-front payment. When chronic anxiety disrupts your life, you may be willing to try anything. But before we find out a cure, we need to understand the how anxiety manipulates you. Here are few ways : 

1. Self Doubt : Anxiety makes you question ourselves. Once self-doubt creeps in, anxiety makes it grow and take over how we view ourselves. 

2. Fear : A big part of anxiety is fear. Anxiety takes what is dear to you and makes you afraid if losing it. 

3. Worries, what-ifs, and worst-case scenarios : These are closely related to fears. it puts thoughts of the worst-case scenarios in our minds, effectively trapping us. 

4. Need for control : We don’t want our fears to manifest. We hate being plagued by constant self-doubt. And we’re weary of our worries. To get rid of them, we focus on them, trying very hard to control them. 

Does any pointers above familiar? How do you become aware of your anxieties, is it hyper ventilation? or palpitations? Do share in the comment section. 

Stop Being Hard On Yourself

FeaturedStop Being Hard On Yourself

It’s just all too easy to hold ourselves to high standards, and then get frustrated if we fail to meet them. I know I have done this before, and, at the risk of sounding defeatist, I know I will do it at some point again.

Perhaps the key to silencing the enemy within is accepting that it is there–that we all possess both darkness and light within us–and then learning to create a higher ratio of self-affirming to self-diminishing thoughts. Maybe the goal shouldn’t be to always be positive, but to recognize when we start being self-critical so that we can shift our thoughts more quickly and effectively with each internal struggle

Here are few ways on how to stop being hard on yourself

1. Separate yourself from the problem : The problem is an event in your life. It isn’t who you are. Problems don’t make you bad.

2. Keep it to the issue at hand : When you notice yourself leaving the current issue and overgeneralizing your mistakes to “everything” stop, take a breath, and remind yourself of the issue at hand.

3. Change to more accurate thoughts : Shift your thinking from what you did wrong to what you did and do right. What are your strengths? What are your skills?

4. Act : To get unstuck, use your mistake in a positive way, to motivate you, help you shape your goals, and take action to accomplish those goals. 

So what do you think? Will you use these steps and try to take a chill pill next time your self criticize too much?  Which one did you like the most? Do leave a comment. 

The Secret Of Staying Happy

FeaturedThe Secret Of Staying Happy

At some points in life, it’s not possible — or at least not easy — to feel happy. However, even then, it’s sometimes possible to feel happier. By taking whatever steps you can manage to give yourself whatever happiness boost is possible, you give yourself a deeper reservoir to deal with your happiness challenge. Here are some strategies which happy people follow everyday to stay happy, why everyday, you say? because it is a habit that you have build, it is a natural state of being.

1.They Practice Self -Care : It is easy to fall into a spell of procrastination and put off an appointment with you doctor or beautician because you are too busy, but self-care is crucial to your well being. Taking care of your body means loving yourself as a person – it goes way beyond aesthetics. Self-care can be as simple as splurging on a new bag or sleeping in for an extra 15 minutes in the morning. 

2. They are Open Minded : A happy person is always open to life and to what is can offer. It is important to have values and principles, but it is also crucial to stay open to change your mind and discover new things because openness and curiosity allow you to grow and evolve. Try to look at the world from a different perspective, or find a new hobby. 

3. They are Kind : A random act of kindness can mean a lot for the person that receives it, and there are so many things you can do on a daily basis to show compassion to the people you love – and also strangers. You can call a friend that you haven’t spoken to in a long time; you can make some cake and give it to your neighbors – and you can volunteer at a homeless centre. 

4. They Express Gratitude : We often think about what we do not have, instead of being thankful for the things we have and for the love we receive from the people who surround us. Gratitude has the power to reframe the difficult times and show us that we are lucky despite the challenges we face. It is a great habit to remember what you have before going to sleep, from simple things like a warm bed to the people who love you.

5. They Keep Smiling : A simple smile can change the day of the person you meet. When you walk around, remember that everyone is fighting a battle, big or small – you cannot help everybody, but you can smile to show compassion and support. if you start the day smiling, the world will laugh back – positive energy attracts positive energy.

What do you thunk makes you a happy person. I look forward to seeing your comments. Take Care.  

 

Powerful Body Language Tips

FeaturedPowerful Body Language Tips

As anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of a fellow driver’s display of the middle finger knows, nonverbal communication is sometimes quite obvious and conscious. Scientists attach great importance to the human capacity for spoken language. But we also have a parallel track of nonverbal communication, which may reveal more than our carefully chosen words, and sometimes be at odds with them.

Here are a few tips to improve body language

1. Smile 🙂

2. Keep an Open space before your upper torso. e.g. don’t fold your arms, hug your bag, or put things on your lap.

3. Have eye contact. Important to establish connection.

4. Be comfortable in your space. Don’t fidget, don’t squirm, or don’t lose yourself in your body.

5. Minimize movement that distracts. Don’t finger drum, nail bite, skin peel or scab pick.

6. Slow down your pace. Move slowly if you have to adjust your position.

7. Be inclusive in your actions. e.g. reduce the physical distance between you and the other person, smile, maintain eye contact, and make occasional gestures towards the other person.

8. Be open with your emotions. If you are sad, happy, or surprised, show that n your face.

So which body language tip do you think is important?

Inner Peace Is Yours

FeaturedInner Peace Is Yours

There are some harsh realities that we try to run away from but sooner or later we get caught and it becomes difficult for us to accept them. So, here we go with the truths of inner peace and happiness, which nobody wants to talk about. But, let us be real and accept these realities. 

  1. It’s impossible for anyone else to define you, you’re the only one who gets to say who you are.

2. You were born with everything you need, you’re not missing anything.

3. Perfection is a man-made illusion, we’re all beautifully imperfect.

4. You are NOT your thoughts, you are the calm awareness behind the noise in your mind.

5. Your beliefs can be modified to lift you up, you are fully in control if your happiness.

6. The past and the future don’t exist anywhere except in your mind. Now is the only real moment.

7. Your calling in life is to fully express who you already are, unapologetically shine your light.

8. Challenges are gifts for your growth and can unlock your full potential.

9. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, to be free.

10. Surrender is the gateway into sustainable inner peace. Let go. 

Mindfulness at Work : Stay Woke AF

FeaturedMindfulness at Work : Stay Woke AF

Mindfulness may seem like a great idea, but how do you become more mindful in the context of a busy work day? You may have emails, phone calls, a team to manage, and people’s attitudes and egos to deal with. And, of course, your own work! In the middle of all that, how can you apply the principles of mindfulness so that you feel more alive and present, as well as being productive? Here are a few  radical ways to be mindful at work.

  1. Be Consciously Present

To me mindful at work means to be consciously present in what you’re doing, while you’re doing it, as well as managing your mental and emotional state. Be present in whatever you’re doing, whether you consider it important, or not.

2. Use Short Mindful Exercises at Work

Even one minute of consciously connecting with one of your senses can be classified as a mindful exercise. You don’t need to close your eyes. You don’t even need to be sitting down. Spend one minute every hour fully connecting with one of your senses.

3. Be a Single – Tasker

Nobody can actually multitask. Your brain is madly switching from one thing to the next, often losing data in the process. Challenge yourself to switch off your email notifications when working on an important task.

4. Use Mindful Reminders

Being on auto-pilot means that you’re not fully present and awake to the opportunities and choices around you. By using some form of a reminder, you can be mindful again. The reminder shakes you out of autopilot mode. Set a timer to go off three times a day, to remind you to be awake and present to the here and now.

5. Slow Down to Speed Up

Effective leaders, workers and entrepreneurs slow down and reflect to make the best decisions and actions – they slow down to speed up. The next time you catch yourself rushing, stop. You’ll save energy and make less mistakes too.

What’s your formula for staying woke at work? Share in the comments. I am excited to read them :).

 

Healthy Habits for the Weekend

FeaturedHealthy Habits for the Weekend

Good habits come in all shapes and sizes. When you’re trying to change your life to a healthier one there’s no shortage of advice. It can be overwhelming. However, before trying to completely overhaul your life I suggest starting with a few weekend habits. In my experience, there are specific habits you can do on weekends that’ll jumpstart healthy habits during the week.  

  1. Fuel yourself for weekday success.

Ask yourself honestly if you pushed yourself too hard with workouts or restricted your food or calories too much during the week. If so, come Friday, your body may be hungry and tired, which can lead to overeating and under exercising on the weekend. Remember to practice moderation every day, eating and exercising in a way that you can sustain for the long haul—not just a few days or weeks.

2. Stick to your usual sleep schedule.

Are you someone who has a firm bedtime during the week only to stay up late and sleep in on the weekends? Changing your sleep patterns could throw off your schedule (hard to eat breakfast when you get up at noon!), and could also interfere with weight loss. Just think of all those times you stayed up later than usual, got hungry and ended up eating something unhealthy! Changing your sleep schedule can also make it harder to fall asleep on Sunday night which could set you up for a tired Monday.

3. Get outdoors.

Because most of us work indoors during the daylight hours, the weekend provides a nice opportunity to get outside, see the sun and connect with nature. Heading outside can boost your body’s production of vitamin D, plus studies show that people are happier when they spend time out in nature. So, get out there and enjoy the great outdoors!

4. Plan for relaxation.

Most of us are busy during the week and even our weekends seem to become non-stop errands, chores, work and travel. So how do you find time to relax? Take the whole weekend (or at least part of it) to schedule some downtime for at least an hour or two. Whether it’s practicing your favorite hobby, seeing a movie with friends or even meditating quietly, do something every weekend that recharges you. You’ll not only feel better, but also beat stress (which may also ) help you drop a few pounds.

5. Plan for the week ahead.

What better way to stay healthy on the weekend than by using your extra time to continue to set yourself up for success? Take a Sunday afternoon or evening to plan your meals, hit the grocery store, and do some big batch cooking for the week ahead. That way, when your busy week gets even busier, you’ll already be ahead of the curve and able to stay on track! Don’t forget about laundering your workout clothes, packing your gym bag, and getting prepared for workouts, too.

Hope you liked these tips for a healthier weekend. Would you love to know about your weekend practices. Thank you for stopping by. 

Confidence Is Necessary

FeaturedConfidence Is Necessary

“Have confidence!” is one of the most essential pieces of advice you’ll receive in life that makes no sense if you’ve never done it. You know what confident people look like, the advantages they get, and that it’s something worth emulating. How do you get there, though?

Here are few ways in which you can become more confident

  1. Smile. Not only will it brighten your day, but it will make others around you smile, too.
  2. At the end of each day write down something you think you did well. e.g. I encouraged a girl who was being shy at work today.
  3. Listen to songs that make you happy, not ones that make you want too, shut yourself off from the world and cry all by yourself in your room.
  4. Believe that you’re in a confidence bubble. Kind of like, you’re wearing an invisibility coat.
  5. Love what you wear. When you look good, it changes the way you feel. This will make you confident while being in public.
  6. Walk with purpose. Walk like you have got somewhere to be.
  7. Make eye contact with the person you’re talking too or are taking.
  8. Next time you’re at a party meet someone new. The person in the corner all by themselves looks like a good person to start with.
  9. Clear out the clutter in your life. A messy room equals a messy mind.
  10. Stop comparing yourself to others. Focusing on your positive qualities, rather than comparing yourself to others, is a great way to boost self-confidence.

 

 

Feel It..Can You?

FeaturedFeel It..Can You?

I don’t know what it means to feel anymore.

I want to feel love. I want to feel excitement. I want to feel happiness where I can throw my head back and laugh completely. Life has become a vicious task of interacting with people for the sake of social integration. I can’t seem to stay interested in things people do or say. I started on the quest of finding my own passions, but nothing seems too interesting anymore, like the zest for life that used to be there just kinda vanished. Almost everything is only interesting for a few instances, and then becomes boring and monotonous.

Even MAJOR life events don’t seem to register the same feeling they once did. Looking at fancy cars don’t bring in the same joy. Emotional turbulence, Maybe? Anxiety, hell YES. That constant jittery feeling in the centre just below the chest, hmmm.

I want to feel emotions again, but at the moment nothing will set me off. People say take it easy. Can’t do, the anxiety is killing. 

Should happiness or pleasure be the desires in life? I mean look around you, who is happy anyways, maybe they are all faking it at some level. I just hope whatever it is, this phase, it passes soon. 

Do you feel like that too? 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Simplify

The older I’m getting the more I admire simplicity. I have the urge to simplify my life. By that I mean I only want to spend my time on what is important for me. But the most important questions which halt our zest to simplify are: what is that? &  how can I do it? And that is where we complicate things. Ironical, But True!

As soon as we do something meaningful and hopefully successful in our lives, a once simple idea becomes more and more complex. Somewhere along the road we need to simplify again. If we forget to simplify, life gets more complex, confusing and most likely stressful.

Simplifying your life is about taking inventory of the things that make you happy and allowing them to multiply. It isn’t about the ‘what ifs,’ or the ‘when’s’ or even the ‘if only’s.’ It is about the RIGHT now. Instead of drooling over what you don’t have and want to have – learn to be happy, to find happiness and to be at peace with where you are right now. In this very moment.

Get rid of everything else. EVERYTHING! Sounds easy, right? And it is, as long as you are committed to the end result. Identifying what is important to you is something that you need to do daily, with nearly every decision. It includes people and places that you may feel like you are stuck with. At every fork in the road, you have to identify whether you are working towards something that is important to you, or whether you are going against your innate sense of happiness to do what ‘you feel is right,’ or ‘is necessary,’ or is ‘politically correct.’

Simplifying your life is about ridding yourself of clutter in all facets of life. Whether it is your garage or mental state that is cluttered with junk – now is the time to get rid of it. When you get rid of the old, you make a statement that you are ready to accept the new, simplified, true to your heart things in life that are important to you. And most often, the universe follows suit with your wishes.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Conscious Creation

WE CREATE OUR REALITY. No fine print. No exceptions. No asterisk. I can’t imagine anyone reading those words and not being excited!

Is it that simple – just a choice? Well, the answer to that is definitely not simple. Sometimes, yes, it is a just a choice. And sometimes (in the beginning it’s most times) we have conflict within us about making that choice, which needs to be addressed before we are free to make it.

The choice is if we are creating unconsciously or consciously. You cannot be a victim, because clearly you have the ability to create.  When we unconsciously create, we see life as happening to us and we are powerless.  We worry and focus on all that is not working.  Life mirrors that back to us.  When we consciously create we look at our beliefs, our thoughts and our actions.  We weed out what does not belong there.  We set clear intentions.  We ask powerful questions such as what is our highest calling? What are our deepest passions?  What do we want to bring forth on our planet not only for ourselves but for all life? As we remember we are Divine we move past our ego and our individual little will.  We see how all is connected not only to each other but to Earth herself and to life in all myriads of form.

I am not here to convince anyone of the fact that we do create it all. There are plenty of books out there on quantum physics which scientifically prove the premise.  I am here to remind those who are already conscious of it, on some level, of the power and divinity they have. And I’m here to share what I’ve learned along my journey, to hopefully make yours easier.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Persevere

When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on. ~ Thomas Jefferson.

Perseverance separates the winners from the losers in both sports and life. Are you someone who perseveres despite difficulties and setbacks, or do you tend to throw in the towel and call it quits when faced with a challenge or adversity? What makes some people able to keep pushing and complete a task while others habitually fizzle and don’t follow through?

Possessing a deep inner belief that you can succeed simply means that you will never give up on your dreams. You will be equipped with the mentality that your success is just round the corner. Yes, you may encounter major challenges or possibly defeats along the way, but because you have a belief that you will eventually succeed, you will revise your game-plan, tweak your strategies, keep moving forward and therefore dramatically improve your chances of success.

But, when the things get tough, all the motivational quotes and stories vanish and what we are left with is fear and feeling of giving up. Something needs to change here. Here are my pearls of wisdom. 

Instead of getting frustrated when things don’t go as planned, expect change, ambiguity, and frustration at least part of the time. This is normal. Develop your sense of humor; learn not to take yourself too seriously. Persistence does not mean banging one’s head on an obstacle until one or the other gives way. It does mean finding and applying strategies that will move you forward. Apply your problem-solving skills and brainstorm possible solutions to the problem. Form a team to help identify obstacles and develop alternatives for overcoming them. If you tend to change course too often, practice handling ambiguous situations and learn to wait out your anxiety. 

Remind yourself everyday that if you don’t work for yourself, nobody is coming to save you. You have to keep working towards what you want but not at the cost of being un-realistic. 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Self Talk

Self talk is the inner dialogue you have in your mind regarding everything you think about, do, wish or dream of. It could be related to people, places and things both real and imagined. A well–known author was quoted as saying that ‘The average person has 60,000 thoughts per day and of these more than 80% are negative’. 

Think back, how many times just today have you criticized, judged, scolded, mocked, or been unkind to yourself?  Now think about the impact this has on your mood, self-esteem, curiosity, and willingness to take risks, be bold, be brave?  And it doesn’t end there.  The danger is not just that we start to believe this dialogue, it’s also that since most of the time we don’t even realize we are having it, we are even more susceptible to its power and fallacies.

“I think I can. I think I can.” We all know mantras can be helpful in reaching goals. Whether it’s powering through a plateau to lose those last 10 pounds or pushing yourself to get through the last mile of that 5k, for fitness and weight loss, positive self-talk can be essential.

So what to do?

Firstly identify the negative thing you say to yourself everyday without knowing. Be aware, listen to your thoughts. So often the fears we have that create the negative self-talk are a result of what we fear will happen in the future – “I’ll be laughed at”, “I’ll get my heart-broken”, “I’ll be rejected”, etc. And while it is admirable to plan ahead, in this type of a situation, focus on the present moment. Focus on the person you want to project yourself as. Focus on helping the current moment be the best it can be. Yes, there may be moments when the best thing you can do is leave because you are that uncomfortable, but instead of storming off in a huff and causing a scene or hoping it will change if you do cause a scene (which it most likely won’t and not in a beneficial way for you, politely remove yourself.

Sounds Good? Please share your ideas for self talk in the comments. Looking forward to reading and implementing them in my life as well!!

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Feel Good

Everyday you have another chance to make your self better. Some days are better than others. On those days that go less well, we usually end up being hard on ourselves. Here are some tools to avoid doing so. Trust yourself. Believe in your inner resources, no matter what, and you’ll grow from the experience. I believe that the answers usually lie within and you are probably smart enough to figure out what you need to do. Give yourself a little time and have patience.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free.  They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times.  They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness.  It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love.  Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.  

Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it.  So be aware of your mental self-talk.  We all talk silently to ourselves in our heads, but we aren’t always conscious of what we’re saying or how it’s affecting us.  Start listening to your thoughts.  If you hear negative thoughts, stop for a second and replace them with positive thoughts.  As the Dalai Lama once said, “The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful.”

Be proud of yourself. Being proud isn’t bragging about how great you are.  It’s more like quietly knowing that you’re worth a lot.  It’s not about thinking you’re perfect – because nobody is – but knowing that you’re worthy of being loved and accepted.  Boost your self-esteem by recognizing your accomplishments and celebrating them.  Acknowledge your positive qualities, and when you come across a quality in yourself that you aren’t proud of, don’t sulk in your sorrows, proactively work on correcting it. 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Stay Strong

This post is going to be dedicated to anybody who is currently going through a hard time right now and is on the verge of losing their vision of their hopes and dreams. 

Whatever your circumstances may be I just want to make one thing clear, you can either become paralyzed and start to feel sorry for yourself or you can utilize the wrong hands you were dealt by life as MOTIVATION. You may feel like you have hit rock bottom, but think of it like this, the only way to go now is UP. I sincerely believe that the people who are at the lowest point of their lives have the best chance of becoming successful. Why? Because if they learn not to get all down, they can use the tragedy’s as fuel which alone will take them along way.

Make yourself unshakeable, like an elephant.  Make your head and heart strong.  When you feel strong, your heart is big, generous and compassionate.  Stay strong and then you can help and support others through your thoughts and presence.  Your good feelings can make a difference and erase others’ distress and sorrow.

My personal secret to staying unflappable is: No matter what my health is like, or how many commitments & meetings I may have, I always maintain my discipline of daily meditation and spiritual study.  I take light and might from God, and I have total faith that everything will turn out right.  And when I interact with others, all I have to do is care, share and inspire.  This is what gives me energy, strength and power. 

Make time to experience your inner peace.  When there’s peace, there’s love, then there’s happiness, and in happiness there is power.  Then nothing can disturb you.  Keep smiling, keep going and simply, enjoy the journey.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Purpose

“The man without a purpose is like a ship without a rudder – waif, a nothing, a no man. Have a purpose in life, and, having it, throw such strength of mind and muscle into your work as God has given you.” ~ Thomas Carlyle

Your purpose in life reflects your ability to derive meaning from your life’s experiences, as well a your ability to make focused and intentional decisions. Most people have faced circumstances that made them feel purposeless at one time or another. This point may have come after the freshness of a new job faded away or after the excitement of a new relationship wore off.  You start questioning whether or not that part of your life, or your entire life, has any meaning. It’s like you’re trying to run on a dead battery. You can’t start. You can’t turn over your engine and take any action.Instead, you sink into feelings of anger, fear, guilt, and sadness. People that fail to regain their purpose of living eventually stop feeling anything. They enter a state of apathy, which is a breeding ground of illness and death.

So, are you living an urgent life or an Important Life?

Too often the need to make money (urgent) wins out over the desire to build something we’re proud of (important). Too often the urge to find a way to lose twenty pounds in six weeks (urgent) wins out over becoming the type of person who doesn’t miss workouts (important). Too often the craving to be noticed or appreciated (urgent) wins out over the ability to be present and satisfied (important).

If you want to start living an important life, then choose a clear purpose for yourself. When you have the courage to say, “This is important to me and I’m going after it,” you don’t fall into the trap of living the life that other people expect you to live. A specific goal or purpose gives you direction and prevents you from being sucked into a whirlwind of time–consuming, unimportant tasks.

Nothing worth working for will ever seem urgent. That’s the nature of important goals. They don’t demand attention right now. They require a sense of purpose, a clear direction, and consistency over the long haul.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Be Good

Whether you call it random acts of kindness, paying it forward, or good deeds, they are very powerful. That is why almost every religion and culture values and rewards the performance of good deeds.

But what is “Being Good”.

Once you get your definition down, then you have to stick with it wherever you go, no matter what you doOthers will always try to change your definition of “good,” especially when it makes them feel bad about themselves. But you must stand by your own definition, even when others mock you for doing so.

But do it for yourself. Be good to other for yourself. We all crave for that warm and fuzzy feeling we get after doing good deeds. 

I am a big believer that doing good, and just being nice to people, begets good treatment in return for the most part. Therefore there is a return, just not necessarily from a particular act or specific relationship. I am not referring to this in a spiritual or cosmic sense. What I mean is that by building a reputation for putting yourself out (whether as an individual or a brand), doing good for others without expectation of something directly in return from that person, and generally being nice will most definitely add to your life in so many ways. People will notice, talk about it, spread the word, and in general most will treat you better, do for you, and watch your back because of the way you treat people.

One good deed everyday…keeps bad karma away :D. 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – The Reality

“If we saw reality, we would never be unhappy.”   The Buddha

This means that if we looked at life and saw what was actually there from a viewpoint of “I started with nothing and now I have lots” we would experience happiness.  Yet we make-up unrealistic expectations of what should be and consequently we experience “not enough”, which has no basis “in reality.”  And then we feel bad and experience unhappiness.  The latter is incredibly stupid on our part.  It is best that we learn how the first is actually true and the latter is false – not as in “positive thinking”, but as in “true reality.”  The payoff for doing so is huge!  It will immensely alter the quality of your life!!!

“What we are unhappy about is what the story tells us, especially about what it means about us and/or the future.  But it is only a story.  Seeing through the story and “disappearing” it will create a “that’s just what is so, now what?” viewpoint.  And from there you can simply proceed to doing that which will get you more of what you want, from this point forward…and seeing what you already have, and that there is virtually nothing to worry about.”

When was the last time you received a reality slap? We’ve all had plenty of them in our lives: those moments when life suddenly deals us a painful blow. It’s a shock, and it hurts, and it knocks us off balance; we struggle to stay on our feet, and sometimes we fall.

Whenever we encounter a reality gap, it helps to ask ourselves this question: ‘What do I want to stand for in the face of this?’ We can stand for giving up on life, or we can stand for something far more meaningful. We can stand for something that matters, deep in our heart: something that dignifies our suffering and gives us the will and the courage to carry on. Obviously, we can’t turn back time. We can’t undo whatever it is that has happened. But we can choose the attitude we take towards it. Sometimes when we take a stand, we can close the gap, and at other times, obviously we can’t. But the moment we take a stand, we experience vitality; we may not have the reality we want, but we do have the satisfaction of living with purpose.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Soul Cry

If you’re going to live from your soul then you have to listen to its wisdom. I believe that most of the drama in our lives manifests when we don’t live in accordance with our inner guidance. Your soul knows what it wants and needs. If you’re not in alignment with it, then you can become off-balance and the outside world then manifests what’s happening on the inside.

Equally, there will be times in your life when your soul is screaming out to you. You know the times when the thoughts resound loudly in your head: “What am I doing?” or “I really should get a grip on my life!” or “I can’t keep living this way!” When you find yourself asking these questions, it’s usually during a particularly busy, emotional, or traumatic time in your life. This is a big clue that your soul is trying to get your attention.

These are the times for Soul Cry Outs. Your soul is yelling at you saying: “Hey! I am here and you haven’t paid any attention to me at all lately!” “I can help!” At times like this, it will send up signals to your psychic and physical senses depositing markers along the way, even in your dreams. We tend to put all of our emphasis on the body with its pleasures and its physical appetites. But the soul also has appetites. The soul longs for union with the universe. Down deep inside every person’s heart is a cry for something, but he doesn’t quite know what it is. Man is a worshiping creature. He instinctively knows that there is something out there somewhere, and he longs to know that something or someone. Your soul longs for vital contact with Universe. Your soul is valuable because it is eternal—it is forever.

Do share your soul cry moments. 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Untamed

Live untamed and unafraid is a recipe for really living life to the full – for really feeling alive day in, day out. It’s about being true to yourself, pushing through your doubts and fears to go after what you really want in life, and living an inspired life that not only has you feel truly alive, but also inspires those around you to really ‘live life’. 

But then if it one of the way to living a fulfilling life, then why don’t we follow it? This is because of our untamed mind and then when we fuel it by talking about it. Of the human urges, a great one is the urge to talk. It is believed that all living beings communicate in their respective languages. Humans, however, due to developed intellect and conditioned self, have developed the system of holding elaborate conversations. If you look around you will find most people talking most of the time. A lot that is being talked is not heard. The urge to talk arises directly from the restless mind. Whether such talk is useful or useless, positive or negative is subject to individual interpretation. 

You can tame your mind by exerting some mental discipline. Make it a daily morning routine to be still by yourself for a few minutes and experience who you are. Raise your awareness to your inner process and feel your feelings – it won’t KILL you. In fact you will be surprised to notice that the emotional pain is not “unbearable”, unless you try to make it go away easily. Take some time to explore the thoughts behind your feelings. 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Belief

“The thing always happens that you really believe in; and in the belief in a thing makes it happen.” – Frank Lloyd Wright. 

Think of the power of belief, then, as part of our essence. Strive to find that which we strongly believe in and allow that belief to energize and motivate us to take action to achieve our desired goals. If we find that we lack the ability to believe in anything right now, either because we have never felt our beliefs held any weight or we are simply beat down and trying to climb back up after addiction, just give it some time. Allow for the possibility that we can believe in something, and seek guidance and counsel so that we may be able to recognize the first signs of our beginning to believe when they do occur.

Although it is important to be clear about what it is you want to see manifest in your life during your creative visualization sessions, it is equally important to detach from the outcome as you go about your day. By constantly wondering where something is, or why it hasn’t shown up yet, or panicking that it won’t, will just keep it away from you because essentially you are focusing on what you do not have. Attachment neutralizes the power of belief. Tell me, how many times has your telephone rung when you have stared at it in a desperate bid for it to ring? When you already have something, you don’t sit around wondering where it is. In other words, the way to effectively detach from your intended outcome is to truly believe that you have already received it.

In a nutshell, the power of belief is key to creating your ideal reality. You must believe that you already are or have that which you intend in the present moment. The secret to belief is to take your intentions for granted to the point of indifference, not because you do not care if they materialize or not but because you know they already have. When you get into the mindset of being grateful for those things which have already been given to you, including your intentions, you will have learnt the secret to turbo charging the manifestation of your choices from the mental to the physical realm.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Not Your Door

How many times have we all tried to manipulate situations and relationships to make them work out the way we wanted? How often have we tried to control people and things we just simply had no control over?

Sometimes if we try as hard as we can — when we are forceful enough or persistent enough — we can get the outcome we want. Or so we think… But how many of us have had the experience of getting that desired outcome, for a time, only to have it blow up in our face? Why does that happen? Because if it doesn’t open — or if it takes too much manipulation or scheming or controlling to keep it open, it’s truly not the door we’re supposed to walk through.

So when to stop or when to give up?

When you are committed to the idea of “not giving up” because that is what we have been told, over and over, is the ultimate sign of weakness. When you have allowed this mantra of “powering through” and “holding on” to keep you locked in a career or a social circle or a continent that does not understand you for years on end. When you know that you no longer love someone, at least not enough to envision any kind of real future with them, and you stay with them anyway because it is the “right” thing to do — no matter how much more it may hurt both of you in the long run — it is time to move on.

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Caring

They May Forget What You Said, But They Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel.

Want to make friends and build a strong network?

Want to be the person that people want to spend time with?

Want to earn someone’s trust and respect?

Then start caring. 

To make someone’s day, all you have to do is stay physically near her while remaining in a state of contentment, humor, compassion or calm. Try getting deeply happy around any loved one, acquaintance or stranger. Refuse to let go of your good mood. You don’t have to say or do anything else. Really. It’ll make your day to see how easily you can make someone else’s. And before you know it, you’ll be soothing entire stressed-out crowds, like the ones you find at food courts and matador conventions. 

I spent much of my life wandering about armored against criticism and rejection, unaware that my wary defense appeared to others as inexplicable offense. And since everyone around me was also frightened, their defenses escalated the moment they encountered mine, which in turn ratcheted up to meet theirs, and so on. But pretending other people love you flips the vicious cycle into a virtuous one. So, try and relax, people have other important things to do in life than judge you and even if they do judge you, then who cares anyways, let them. In this way, you cab care for even those who don’t care for you.

So Care More and Worry less and always remember to start caring from yourself! 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Compassion

Compassion is the highest virtue in a way and compassion is not possible if you are identified with this or that. Only when you are able to just look at life as life, only then you can be compassionate. If you look at it as my life or your life – no compassion. When life is just life, there is compassion.

But then, we find it easier to show compassion for others, even complete strangers, rather than ourselves, which is sad. Begin with yourself. Compassion can be our liberator; compassion breaks down barriers and joins people together on a human, spiritual level. 

Writing is practicing compassion fro myself. Everybody has something about themselves that they don’t like; something that causes them to feel shame, to feel insecure, or not “good enough.” It is the human condition to be imperfect, and feelings of failure and inadequacy are part of the experience of living a human life. Try writing about an issue you have that tends to make you feel inadequate or bad about yourself (physical appearance, work or relationship issues…) How does this aspect of yourself make you feel inside – scared, sad, depressed, insecure, angry? What emotions come up for you when you think about this aspect of yourself? This is just between you and the paper, so please try to be as emotionally honest as possible and to avoid repressing any feelings, while at the same time not being overly melodramatic. Try to just feel your emotions exactly as they are – no more, no less – and then write about them. 

Learning to have compassion for yourself and to let go of the judgemental way in which you look at your own life will not only serve to improve your own life’s happiness; the compassion that you show yourself will begin to reflect in your treatment of others, too.

So, what did you do today to be more self-compassionate? 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Love Yourself

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~ Oscar Wilde.

Do you know what it means to love yourself unconditionally? Do you know how to totally accept and embrace yourself fully? Are you facing difficulties with loving yourself?

Listen to your mind talk and you will know things. Chances are that you have been saying more negative than positive things to yourself. If your self-talk is unkind, causes you to feel down and erodes you of your spirit, then you can be said to be having some challenges with feeling good about yourself.  On the contrary, should you love yourself absolutely, you will be supportive, compassionate and not be constantly criticizing yourself. Hence, it is important that you start to observe what you have been saying to yourself. 

Overflowing love comes from consciously choosing to learn with your personal source of spiritual guidance about loving yourself. When your intention is to learn about loving yourself – rather than being to get love and avoid pain – your heart opens to your true source of love.

Despite all the things that you think may be terribly wrong with you, love yourself. Love yourself. Tattoo it on your brain. I can think of so many reasons why you should love yourself, but here’s just one: It is incredibly dull and uninspiring to be around people who do not love themselves. Ugh. Yes, it is! It is so boring to hear someone crib about their dull lives all the time, it brings your energy down. 

You are the only person who can truly love you. When we expect others to love us more deeply than we love ourselves, we set ourselves up to resent them when they don’t. Only you can have deep compassion for yourself, because you are the only being you have control over. What glorious freedom to realize I don’t have to worry about how much someone else loves me or feels compassion for me – it’s MY job!​

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Perfection

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything,
That’s how the light gets in.
— Leonard Cohen

It’s easy to get swept up by the fear that we just aren’t enough. We think we aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough or thin enough. For example, when we feel we aren’t enough physically, we’re compelled to diet, exercise, wax, pluck and tuck in an attempt to achieve the “perfect” look. Somewhere along the line we’ve equated the perfect butt with the perfect life. But then we go overboard with the zest to achieve the perfection which most of the time end up in depression because everyone is made differently and unique in their own way. 

So, then what is perfection?

There is the old saying, “practice makes perfect,” but I’d like to tweak that a little bit. I think practice makes progress. I believe we are all striving everyday towards an ideal, and realistically we may never reach that perfect moment, but that’s not what life is about. Life is about that journey of The Practice. Life is about practice, patience, and progress. Perfection is subjective. 

Human perfection isn’t a dream, it’s a nightmare.

If your reason to achieve perfection is to get recognition from others then you are on a wrong path. If your reason to achieve perfection is to be better at something than what you were yesterday, then May the Perfection Be Yours! Have a go and next time you’re chasing perfection, take a step back, realize that you’re already perfect and sit back and enjoy the relaxed feeling of being content with where you’re at.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Never Again

I am not a follower of Christianity, but one of my college professor Ms. Theodore send me across a “Never Again” list which has got me intrigued. 

We’re all looking to be successful in life, but sometimes we are wasting our time doing things that are holding us back from reaching our full potential. And, often, we don’t recognize those things until someone points them out. We all need that one check list to cajole us back to the reality. For me, today is this list: 

My professor’s message went like this: 

/ Never again will I confess “I can’t” for “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” (Philippians 4:13)

/ Never again will I confess doubt and lack of faith, for “God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.” (Romans 12:3)

/ Never again will I confess defeat, for “God always causeth me to triumph in Christ Jesus.” (2 Corinthians 2:14)

/ Never again will I confess worries and frustrations, for I am “Casting all my cares upon Him, who careth for me.” (1 Peter 5:7) In Christ I am “care-free.”

/ Never again will I confess loneliness, Jesus said, “Lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world.” (Matthew 28:20) “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” (Hebrews 13:5)

/ Never again will I confess curses or bad luck, for “Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us…that the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Jesus Christ; that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith.” (Galatians 3:13-14)

/ Never again will I confess discontent because “I have learned, in whatsoever state (circumstances) I am, therewith to be content.” (Philippians 4:11)

/ Never again will I confess unworthiness because “He hath made Him to be sin for us who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in Him.” (2 Corinthians 5:21)

Your words are more powerful than you think. Retrain yourself in how you speak, get rid of doubt, fear and all negative and unproductive speech. Instead, begin to speak these biblical truths over yourself and situations in life, and you will be amazed at the change that will take place. In so doing, you will be in complete agreement with the Lord and His Holy Word. The change will be gradual, but rest assured, it will take place.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – I Don’t Care

Do you have the clarity, the willingness, do you have the momentum to not care about what somebody else thinks about what you are doing?

I don’t care, yes, say these to yourself every time a stupid doubt created by others enters your mind. Say these words to yourself every-time someone hurts you, or say mean things to you.

I don’t care.

Its just how I am. I like it this way. Life is so much fun for me.

I don’t care. I am sorry you are upset but I don’t care.

I want your world to be very good but I don’t care.

I would like everything to work for you, but I can’t fix it so I don’t care.

I don’t care about whatever is conditional.

I understand that if I don’t care you no longer want to talk to me. Well, I don’t care.

No, I am not heartless. There are a lot of things I care about.

I care about feeling good. I care about my clarity. I care about being an uplifter (starting with myself). I care about presenting all of myself in a given time and space. I care about being of value. I care about everything that you desire. I care about everything that I desire. I care about all good things coming to me and to you. I care about all living happily ever after. I care about only those things which infuse love and excitement within me and not which sucks the energy out of me. I care about contributing in positive ways. I care about feeling good and about others feeling good. I care about the solutions to a problem. I care about my emotions. I am in control of my emotions. I care about embracing life. I care about my flow of thoughts which make me feel good. I care about those feelings which align with my reason of being. And my reason for being is simple, and singular, I care about Feeling Good!!!!

 

 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Innocence

Innocence is Brilliant!
Innocence is not ignorance. Innocence doesn’t mean you don’t know, see, or hear bad stuff. We think babies are innocent because they don’t understand but that’s not why they are innocent. Innocence is not immaturity. You don’t lose innocence once you get to a certain age or once you mature. Innocence is not just for babies or kids. Innocence is Virginity (as in the state of being naive, innocent, or inexperienced in a particular context..not the other one) Does that help or does that make it more confusing? Probably makes it more confusing, right?

Innocence is a pearl we can carry with us throughout our lives, a way of viewing each other without prejudice, of looking for the potential for good in people and situations. And, perhaps most importantly, a way of looking at the world without fear. If we are very lucky, some remnant of innocence is within us still, inextricably linked with our ability to on, with our willingness—however reluctant—to participate again in society, with our desire to reconnect with the very fabrics of our lives. 

Do you feel innocent anymore?

Although our innocence—like our pearl earrings and our books of poetry—may be replaced, it is often not without great pain and great expense.

But we must keep looking. We must find, again, a way of living in the world that allows us some hope, some joy, some peace.

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Freedom

True Freedom comes when we accept ourselves for who we are!

It is impossible without a mind made free by discipline. It is the mind which sees things and then fills us with new desires. Desires are good, but not all. What about those desires which originate out of ego, jealously, anger? The worst part is that there is not getting away from these desires, they will comes and go till we are alive. Even at our death beds, we will have a desire to stay alive for some more time. 

“Freedom (n.): To ask nothing. To expect nothing. To depend on nothing.” Ayn Rand

It’s easy to fool yourself into thinking that you act independently. But becoming a more free and independent person is a complicated issue, and there are many road blocks that will get in your way. One of the most common is “To Be Socially Accepted”.

In public, it is very common to behave in a way that you never would alone. That is because you feel the need to adhere to a particular role in that context. Consider the person who feels obligated to drive a nice car as a status symbol. Their identification with their job creates a role that they “needs” to play, and then imposes a severe restraint or condition upon them. Same goes for traditions and cultures as well. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that traditions are always bad. But they can have unintended side effects regarding your ability to make decisions and act on them independently.

So..now what?

Remove your social mask. Essentially, this means that you should act more authentically and more true to yourself when around others. It’s so easy to slip into a persona in public and pretend to be someone you’re not. In fact, if you’ve done this enough, it can be almost impossible to take off your social mask, but you must try. Train your mind to identify with your real self, remind yourself of who you really are. Write down things which really matter to you and then read it – re-read it again and again till it becomes your second skin. 

Does it help in getting your personal freedom back? You tell me in the comments section.