FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – The Truth

There is only one Truth, but whose is it anyways??

All faith is false, all faith is true

Truth is the shattered mirror strown

In myriad bits; while each believes

His little bit the whole to own

~ Richard Francis Burton

As a person my opinion is simply my opinion. I can empathise and try to understand and feel what it’s like for someone else, but although I can come close, I can never know for sure exactly how a person is experiencing the world. I hold my own piece of mirror, and they hold theirs. Over time those experiences can get blurred and become less clear, meaning it can be difficult to remember the truth of exactly what happened. However most important is how one respond to the memories one do have, and how it affects their life now.

Once we accept that truth is not this fixed thing to be found and clung onto, it becomes easier to accept that others hold different truths, and that no matter how much we may disagree with them, no-one has a monopoly on the truth. For us as individuals it also gives space for hope that some of the negative truths we cling to may not be so fixed. A person might firmly hold the belief that they must never feel sad, as letting in even a bit of sadness would open the floodgates leading to an overwhelming wave of sadness descending upon them.

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FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – The Signs

We are all psychics. Believe it or not, but its true. We all somehow already know the answers to all the questions we had, have or will have in the future. It is that little voice in our head which we if not always, mostly tend to “Not listen” because we think we know better. But, hell we are so wrong.

So, our intuition sends us signs. You must train your heart as well as your eyes. You must recognize that there are little miracles popping up in your day, special messages to be opened. Opening the heart opens your eyes to these messages from the Divine. The magic will return to your life as you begin to recognize that you are in constant dialogue with the Divine Intelligence. 

Once of the most common signs are “Déjà Vu”. I am sure you all have heard of it or experienced it before. Now I like to believe that there is a spiritual significance to this phenomenon. Although studies suggest that déjà vu is associated with more serious medical conditions, such as schizophrenia, epilepsy, and clinical anxiety. 

Ummm…..well lets not go there. 😉 I am going to believe what I want to believe…..wait, did I just show a sign of being schizophrenic…ummm…ummm…NOOOOOO! Snap! 

I think its all about having an exceptional memory of remembering things in a long run. Also, if the studies of law of attraction is to be believed, one may  have envisioned or played out similar situation in their minds first and then when they happen in real life, we are familiar with it. I mean there are 60K thoughts that run through our mind everyday, anything is possible and the power of mind is unbelievable indeed. 

Summary : I can achieve anything through the power of my mind. 

What do you think? 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Mental Block

A mental block is a form of uncontrollable resistance or discharge, suspected to originate in the brain. IT is defined as the unconscious denial of a thought or an emotion. A mental block appears as a mode of defense, removing from his conscience any representation likely to disrupt him.

Wait…..let me rephrase that for you!

Mental blocks are incredibly irritating. It doesn’t matter whether you are pondering over which cupboard to clean first before the festivities start, trying to push yourself do those extra squats at the gym even when your quadriceps (thigh muscles) and gluteus (hip muscles) are screaming in pain or just trying to get up early in morning so that you can achieve more in a day, sometimes you hit a mental block and can’t go forwards.

The usual solution is simply to take a break. After an hour, a day or a week, you return to the problem afresh and suddenly everything seems clear. You can’t understand what the problem was in the first place: the answer is right there, staring you in the face. This is a fascinating capability of the mind. It’s wonderful that it can solve problems unconsciously while we’re getting on with day-to-day life.

Refuse to quit. This too is a lot easier said than done, but tell yourself daily that you refuse to quit. When you are struggling to get motivated, tell yourself, “I refuse to quit!” When you feel that the hard work is not worth it, tell yourself, “I refuse to quit!” Your mental block may be strong, your mind can be stronger. So, “refuse to quit!”

Challenge yourself. For example, firmly decide that every time you are in the gym or following any other kind of fitness regime, you are going to challenge yourself and push forward harder than the previous workout. A

Break it Up. Once you set a short, obtainable goal, make up your mind and accomplish it. Focus on your goal and do not let any mental blocks prevent that goal from happening. They keep you motivated and focused. Once you attain one goal, then you can start with another one easily.

Well, that was my side of the story. What is yours? Do share your pearls of wisdom.

 

Daily Dose of Inspiration – Feelings

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Feelings

Emotions and feelings may seem to many of us like trivialities—sensations that get in the way of the real work the brain has to do. Humans have a malleable mind; you can whittle it any way you want.

It is very important that you feel good about yourself. How you feel speaks volume about your mood at that point of time. They are a perfect indicator of what you should do. In today’s busy world, you may not get enough time to relax. However, it is not good to remain continuously in stress for a long time. But you are always feeling something or the other. Make Feelings your Anchor.

Make a decision to feel good about yourself and your surrounding at all time. Now, I know its easier said that done, but we all have to start somewhere. Frustrated, demoralised people are more prone to depression and other psychological disorders and often develop suicidal tendencies. So, it’s best to evade all negativities and make it a point to feel good about yourself.

Try some of these : You should always try to keep yourself happy, Be Optimistic, Work on building your self-esteem, Maintain healthy relationship is very important for happiness, Changes are refreshing and always give you something new to explore, Utilize your skills and do things you are good at, Spend time with people you love and doing the things you love, Never compare yourself with others, Create your own style and Do not hesitate to laugh.

Do you have any more suggestions? Please share.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Tomorrow

Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow : Our concepts of time—and how we process it in the brain—are based on our understanding of physical space, with some surprising cultural variations.

The reason procrastination is so difficult to deal with might be tied to our perception of time and the difference between how we see our present and future selves. So even though we know that a year from now we will be the same person we are today, most of us lack any sort of empathy or emotional connection to that future version of ourselves. And so we “delegate” important tasks to our future selves without realizing that present us and future us is the same person. And that person will have to suffer the consequences.

One of the best things we can do is to forgive ourselves for procrastinating. Yes, as naïve as it may sound, it is surprisingly effective. The most useful advice is to stop waiting until we’re in the right mood to perform a certain task. Like Really?, No Really! Hear Me Out. We need to realize that our belief that our emotional state has to match our current task is extremely counterproductive. Ignore how you feel about doing something and just do it.

Don’t agree with me? So, lets here your thoughts then…!!!

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Shut the Fuck Up!

Why are people lazy?

Again, we must go back to motivation. The root word in motivation is motive. To understand any behavior or attitude, you must first consider the two basic human motives.

When you boil it all down the two human motives are:

(1) Avoid Pain

(2) Gain Pleasure.

Your mind links pleasure and/or pain to all life events- persons, places, and things (due to past experience and information from others).

The trick is to discover the links in your mind through honest self-contemplation. If you are honest with yourself and take a little time to think, you will be surprised the positive results and the relatively little time it took for you to discover this information.

Start with your mind. Ask your mind to “Shut the Fuck Up!!”. This is the root to changing your laziness. You must destroy all unproductive links in your mind and develop new and empowering links. Use pain and pleasure to your advantage

Change begins in your mind. If you transform your mind, you can transform your body.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – I Don’t Care

It’s tough to live a positive life around negative people.

So the best way to protect your energy is to have a “I Don’t Care Attitude”

Dealing with negativity can be quite a downer.  I once had a coworker whose negative energy would wash over me on a daily basis.  In our conversations, she would complain endlessly about everything – work tasks, family, friends, health, and anything else she could think of.  She was also extremely cynical about others, often doubting their intentions and judging them harshly.  Talking to her wasn’t a pleasant experience, to say the least.

Maintaining a level of emotional detachment is vital for keeping stress at a distance.  Not allowing negative people (or anyone for that matter) to put the weight of their inadequacies on your back is vital to your emotional health and happiness.  It all comes down to how you value yourself, and thus believe in yourself.

People who manage their lives effectively are generally those who work internally – i.e. those who know that success and well-being comes from within (internal locus of control).  Negative people generally work externally – i.e. blame others or outside events for everything that does or doesn’t happen (external locus of control).

When your sense of satisfaction and self-worth are derived from the opinions of others, you are no longer in control of your own happiness.  Know this.  When emotionally strong people feel good about something they’ve done, they don’t let anyone’s shallow opinions or spiteful remarks take that away from them.

Truth be told, you’re never as good as everyone says when you win, and you’re never as terrible as they tell you when you lose.  The important thing is what you’ve learned, and what you’re doing with it.

Daily Dose of Inspiration – I Can

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – I Can

You can do anything you put your heart, mind and soul into. Far more than you can imagine. Be fearless. Do it.

Many times in life people are discouraged to do something because its considered ridiculous, unrealistic, or stupid. These all may be true but that doesn’t mean you can’t do them. Anything is possible. If youset your goal and work as hard as you can to complete it you most likely will. And nothing is better than proving someone; who tried to put you down for what you wanted, wrong.

There’s a fine line between independence and stubbornness. It’s a line I cross pretty frequently. I strongly believe that everyone should cross this line frequently. We are not born in this life to be in the safe zone or have a comfortable protected life always. They are important yes, because until you are in an unstable professional and personal environment, you can achieve little beyond your comfort zone. But if you are, then its high time. Persevere, be persistent in achieving the impossible. Face your fears, Don’t give up. Don’t end your life being a mediocre.

Accomplishment is an amazing feeling. As long as you want to accomplish a goal and are willing to put the work in you can. Don’t let anyone put you down and tell you, you can’t. Those who encourage you are the ones you should listen to. I know the feeling when someone tells you, you can’t accomplish something it sort of breaks you down a bit. On the other hand, like I said before nothing is better than proving that person wrong. So as long as you put your mind to something and put the effort in you need to accomplish it you can do anything! Don’t let anyone tell you othewise.

 

 

Daily Dose of Inspiration – Don’t be Stupid

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Don’t be Stupid

From social media posts, to traditional blog posts, to webinar announcements, to online “branding” courses, self-titled experts were telling their respective audiences to quit their day job.

These “opt-ins” were promoted by doing what marketers have done all along to sell products, appeal to a person’s emotions, be it their point of pain or simply an interest. This can be easily accomplished by using emotionally triggering words and phrases such as: job frustration, underpaid and overworked, stressed, and my personal favorite, “why work for someone else when you can work for yourself.”

Entrepreneurship is a beautiful thing, but faith and clever posts doesn’t mean the first thing you should do is quit your job. It’s time to end the fantasies and get realistic. Ask yourself few questions.

  1. Have I made an effort to remedy any situations clouding my judgment? – Lets assume that your boss has no clue about the definition of a work-life balance, or the possibility of a clearly defined role is merely a pipe dream. Before you quit, ask yourself whether you’ve made any attempts to resolve these issues. Sometimes, things are not as bad as they look. If you keep on thinking negative about something, nothing good is going to come out of it. Think of the situation as a third person.
  2. What’s my game plan for the future? – Maybe you have a solid business plan drafted for your new venture or have  already solidified a few contacts in your desired field. A solid game plan moving forward makes everything manageable during such a tumultuous time plus it helps managing the finances. But if you are okay with living on the streets, knock yourself out.

     

If you do not have a convincing answer to any of the above questions, then DON’T BE STUPID & DO YOUR JOB.

 

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I am an unrealistic Optimist….??!!….Yes I am and I am proud of it. I get ridiculed often times (actually all the time) and my dear ones try to protect me in any way possible from going overboard in my thoughts and actions. So, from the normal reality of my present life to what one should do to live in this society, such realities are pushed into my brain in a hope that sense would prevail and I would (like everyone else) get into the mode of living a “normal sane life”and tread the path that many before me have followed. But then that little voice inside me, that spark of creativity playfully like a child smiles and tells me “We will make it one day,Girl!! Hold on!!.

I know you must be thinking, “Yea, we got the voice too but we got to go to work tomorrow & everyday for the good part of our lives, work hard, earn money, pay off loans, and dream of a brighter future for our kids”. Well, I say I am no different, I will go to work too, juggle with people, spring in a new idea to my boss and try to get a raise. But hey, how long can you really keep up with that?! Be honest to yourself if not to anyone else.

We all have an alter reality, a creativity which keeps on reminding us of “what ifs?”. No, they aren’t distractions, they are who we really are!!

Now, I am not saying give up your jobs and pursue your passions. We are all scared of doing something different, of…failing..but we are missing out on the experiences our creativity has to offer. Don’t give up on it! Pursue it everyday in any tiny way possible. Nothing is impossible until we give up on it. Make SMART goals for your passions too. Who knows where they will lead us. Have courage, have patience, have faith.

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What do we really want in life..??

FeaturedWhat do we really want in life..??

What do we really want in life. Well, in India, most of the time (till today) our parents answer this question for us. They chose the school we should (well yea..coz at that time we were too busy eating the orange and cola coloured toffees aka “Candies”), they chose the stream we should pursue to make a good career (not trying to sound old, but some of us didn’t have a choice here), graduate and get a great job (after all we don’t want us to be criticised by our parents in front of Uncles and Aunties for not being able to do well in life), get married to a “WELL-SETTLED” person and then do the same things to our kids and the vicious cycle continues.

But, what do we really want.

Don’t think you’re on the right road just because it’s a well-beaten path.” – Author Unknown

Life speaks to us in many ways, and trust me I am not trying to be philosophical here. I can prove it. Well, think about those times when we are getting “Bhand” (pardon my language, but it makes it real) with our friends and we are in that feeling of “I don’t give a *beep* what the world wants me to do”. We talk about stuff which we are passionate about, thing that we want to do in life. We could be an engineer, MBA in profession, or a doctor, but maybe what we really wanted to do in life was “Play Tennis” or “Become a writer” or “Run a business” or “Just get married and raise kids (I have all respect for he mothers in the world, its a tough job to raise kids like us:P). And trust me “Being Bhand” with friends is just one of the many occasions when life really speaks from within you.

Now, either you will ask me “Then, why don’t we do what we really want?” or if you are idealistic aka practical, you will say “Life is not easy ok, you have to earn money”. Well, first things first, I am not trying to say I am a specialist in life, coz if I would have been, I would have been a billionaire already and spending my life on my yacht, traveling to some exotic country, not sitting 12 hours in front of my computer and still earning thousands by the minute. Well, I am not here to give you “Gyan” about why we don’t do what we are so passionate about doing. We all have our reasons starting from “Laziness – Procrastination – Lack of time – Lack of money, Honey!”.

But, a few tips to “Stay happy, even if your life is not perfect” with a disclaimer that these are my views (and I am a little crazy, like really), so you may or may not like or follow them, no hard feelings and also since I have started a blog, well I got to write something.

1. Stop Cribbing – Look, I agree cribbing or venting out your troubles to someone takes the load off your chest and makes your feel lighter. Agreed. But it depends to a large extent on the person who is listening to you. Let things go yaar, life is too short, apologise if you do wrong, say thank you more often, smile or shut up even when the lava is about to burst out from your head.

2. Always believe that something wonderful is going to happen – Very cliche, I know, but what’s wrong in thinking something that gives us a high for a few moments in a day. How about thinking about good moments which bring a smile to your face and looking into the future in a positive way. Negative soch ke bhi kya kar ledge, so atleast be positive about it.

3. If you can’t do anything positive about it, give it time rather than taking hasty decisions and ruining it.

4. Take out time for your passion – I know, no one has time. But hey, we all take out time to have dinner with someone special, or watch some american sitcom season episode back-to-back coz its easier. Take out some time for yourself even if it means earning a little less money.

5. Look back at the greatest accomplishments in your life and remind yourself about them again and again. Its feels good. I don’t have many accomplishment, infact none, but I am glad how far I have come in life (even if its just age wise :P, people die everyday, atleast I am alive :P)that is something to be grateful about.

So why am I writing about all these above things and making it a long boring read?? WHAT’S MY POINT?

The point is simple. Just be happy in life, no matter what the situation, less money, thankless job, too much work load, sleepless nights, Pain in the ass boss, politics, relationships or whatever, just be happy like a mad person (don’t stress too much on mad, we all are anyways our own special brand of crazy). You have a lot of things to be thankful about in life. Be thankful about them. Smile, laugh, be special, be unique. Hell, this is your life, and you can’t spoil it by being negative or too serious.

As I mentioned earlier, these are my opinions only, you can do whatever you want. But if you have read the entire thing and are reading this line, think about what I have written atleast once.