FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Return on Relationships

No man is an island. No one is self-sufficient; everyone relies on others. This saying comes from a sermon by the seventeenth-century English author John Donne. Returns in relationship is very important. I mean, we can go on and on about how one should not expect someone else to make them happy etc etc….but the truth is in the age of social media we might have large networks but few if any real relationships.

Of-course when in love, we have to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. But hey, this should be not done at the cost of your own happiness at any cost. Understanding what you want and what you expect out of a relationship does not make you selfish. But you have to be willing to accept that one other person may not be able to fulfill your every relationship need. We aren’t saints, after all. But you are not selfish for expecting fundamental relationship needs out of your partner. These needs might be different than someone else’s, but no matter what relationship, both partners have to be willing to do two things: prioritize and communicate.

What I am trying to say is, the most important return on relationships is to get your emotional needs met and experience your best possible relationship! So, what emotional needs are we talking about?  Emotional needs vary from person to person, but the most common emotional needs are appreciation, understanding, being heard, acknowledgment and respect. All of these needs represent a particular manner in which we show and express love. Mutually meeting emotional needs in any relationship fosters intimacy, trust and a feeling of great satisfaction. On the other hand, the opposite of meeting emotional needs — criticism, undermining, minimizing and disrespect — all cause separation, resentment and a lack of trust. When we understand this dynamic, we are immediately empowered to improve any relationship. 

Thoughts? Feel free to leave a comment. 

 

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FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Freedom

Freedom to be yourself is a challenge! It is. Can you believe how twisted we are? Something as simple as being yourself has come to be quite challenging these days. Why is it so easy to be a mindless sheep?  To follow the flock, do as you’re told, blend in? We were taught this way, From the time we’re little and placed into preschool by our parents, the programming begins. 

So, Now What?

Being authentic is the ability to be true to oneself. Living an authentic life requires the ability to be true to our own wants, needs and desires and not live our lives by the opinion of others. Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices and stand firmly in who we are in our core. Being true to ourselves gives us the insight and compassion to see others for who they are, not who we expect them to be. It frees us up from the judgment of ourselves and others and it gives others the freedom to be themselves as well.” ~ Victoria J. Reynolds

The above quote pretty much sums up the concept of freedom for me. Those people who embrace who they are, those people who choose to be themselves and nobody else, those are the people who will always be admired and those are the people who will always inspire others. This is what authenticity does to you.

Promise yourself that you will always act in accordance with who you are and with what you believe in, and even though it may be challenging at first, know that in time it will come naturally to you, and people will look up to you, asking you how you do what you do. You might not understand what they are talking about, because all that you are doing is being yourself, and it’s the easiest and the most natural thing for you to do, but looking back, you will remember where you once stood, and you will help them achieve what you’ve achieved. 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Be Vulnerable

Stay Vulnerable Even When It Hurts. To be human is to discover we can be vulnerable and still be strong. We can ask for help and still lead and we can need others and still be tenacious. It takes a strong person to live openly in their vulnerability. Vulnerability is scary. But it’s also a powerful and authentic way to live.

It’s a complicated issue, but looking at it existentially, we only have one life to live. The essential idea is to live it as fully as possible, to experience all of your emotions, all your perceptions, all your thoughts, all your ideas.  But when we’re damaged, we block out a lot of our potential to realize the fullness of our existence. Early in life, we build defenses against interpersonal pain, separation anxiety, and existential fears. Yet the very defenses that once protected us as children and were appropriate to our survival emotionally are no longer appropriate and they limit our life experience as adults.

Some of us automatically balk at vulnerability because we assume that being vulnerable means wearing our secrets on our sleeves. We assume that being vulnerable means spilling our hearts to strangers, and letting it all hang out. But vulnerability embraces boundaries and trust. Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.

Being vulnerable takes courage. But it’s worth it. It’s worth it to be ourselves, to connect to others. 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – You Can Do It

Life Lesson: You can do anything you put your mind to, even if it’s “I can’t”. Period.

You can tell yourself “I can” all day long, and if you really believe it, and you’re willing to work for it, you can absolutely accomplish anything you put your mind to. Determination + Hustle (+ Perseverance) = Success.

But what if you tell yourself “I can’t”? Or how about “it’s too hard for me”? Guess what. Whether you believe that you can, or you believe that you can’t, you’re right.

Life didn’t come with a guidebook! We write it as we go along, and sometimes we fudge it! The more guidelines and wisdom we have, the better we can navigate through the field of material reality to manifest the life of our dreams. But there are a few basic core things you can do to achieve it all that you desire. 

  1. Follow Your Heart : Live a more satisfying life by letting your heart calling guide you. Your heart is tender, kind and guided by meaningful choices. It’s much more likely to do the right thing, rather than making a self-serving ego-dominant decision.
  2. Be Emotionally Intelligent : Emotions are the most powerful energy you have. Successful people develop methods to harness their emotions. Develop passion for who you are and what you are here to contribute. Connect emotionally with what you want to achieve. Make it become deeply resonant. “Those who live passionately Teach us how to love. Those who love passionately Teach us how to live.” – Yogananda.
  3. Be Honest With Yourself : Stay in touch with who you are. Align yourself to your thoughts, feelings and actions. Stay fully present to who you are and what you would like to achieve. See yourself as one with your goal, and the goal as already achieved. Create the emotion of achievement, and use it to inspire you forwards.
  4. Believe in yourself : You are something of real value and you have something unique to offer the world. Have faith that you will be supported the more you authentically reveal yourself. The whole universe conspired to create you so there is a good reason you’re here. If you’re struggling to find it, keep looking, it may be hidden. Yet, don’t get stuck on searching. 

YOU CAN DO IT…..!!!!!! Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes (No, Not a Typo) Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes….I CAN DO IT!!

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Make Today Count

What if today is the day for you to choose, to decide that you are going to be successful and achieve and manifest your deepest desires and outcomes?

Is it possible, I mean is it just possible, that today, you make a choice to go forward with 100% commitment in your life and energy?

One today is worth two tomorrows.
-Benjamin Franklin

According to science, you will have approximately 70,000 thoughts today. And Thoughts do Become Things. 

Now, I cant tell you what and how to think as I am an expert, YES, but only of my own life. But, I can share with you some inspiring quotes which will help us relax, recenter and focus in on the truth and make your day more productive. So here goes:

  • “Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” Stephen R. Covey
  • “If you worry about what might be, and wonder what might have been, you will ignore what is.” 
  • “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low and achieving our mark.” Michelangelo
  • “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change, rather than allowing it to master you.” Sri Ram
  • “What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.” Oprah Winfrey

Have a great week ahead people!. 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Unapologetically You

If you are living true to yourself and your inner drivers (and not purposefully trying to hurt others) then you never need to apologise for being yourself. If you are chasing your dream, doing what comes naturally, and being yourself at all times then others just need to accept you for you. If they cannot do that then they are simply not worthy of your time. People who want you to change, or want to belittle your thoughts and dreams, or just want you to stop being yourself are not healthy people to spend your time with. These attitudes are negative and poisonous and they will constantly degrade your life if you allow them to exist around you. Do not do this. Do not let these people and these attitudes in to your life. If people cannot respect you for being true to yourself then they need to be shown the door.

This is not heartless or callous. This is simple fact. Our lives are ultimately an individual experience. We share many of our experiences with others, form relationships and so on but ultimately we are all individuals who see and experience the world in our individual way. We are all individuals operating with our own set of ideas, thoughts and beliefs and as such we should never sacrifice that individualism to please others.

If you are willing to sacrifice your own identity for the sake of others then you are just letting their view of the world, and their ideas and thoughts, take precedence over yours. Why? Why should you take on their values or their set of rules for how to behave? Why does their view mean more than yours?

By changing yourself to suit others you are essentially saying that your own view of yourself is wrong and that others know and understand you better than you do. But it is you, and only you, that lives with yourself 24/7. No-one else sees or experiences the world in the exact same way as you and no-one else is inside your mind, observing and responding to your experiences within the world. That means that no-one else is in a position to ever fully understand you as much as you can understand yourself.

That is not to say that people will never understand you. The basis of forming healthy relationships is that you connect with similar people on various levels and this connection implies a deep understanding of each other. But, as close as you can become with others, and as much as they can learn to understand you, it will never be to the full amount to which you understand yourself. Only you see the world through your eyes, so only you know exactly what is happening within your world.

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Ground Yourself

Your life is a journey with lots of stops along the way and if you could have some idea what to expect, at least some of the time, you might feel a lot better about the whole thing. The image of life as a journey is so much a part of our language that we don’t even stop to think about it.

It is very easy to lose sight of what is right and what is wrong when you successfully achieve your dreams. We give you some ways to help you stay grounded, no matter how famous or successful you become.  

Always be grateful

Instead of being full of arrogance and pride, try being grateful. This feeling of gratitude will help you stay humble. Never forget those who helped you achieve this status and be forever thankful to them. Know that if it hadn’t been for their sacrifices, hard work, and a bit of luck, you would not have been standing where you are standing right now.

Remind yourself of life’s unpredictability

Always remember that life is extremely unpredictable and uncertain. Just because you are successful now does not guarantee that you will be successful 5 years from now. Just as you weren’t very sure of your current success, you should not be too sure of what’s to come. If you keep reminding yourself that things can change for the worse in a matter of seconds, then you will think twice before you fill yourself with pride.

Know there are things more important than success

When success colors your vision, try to remind yourself that there are people and things that are way more important than what you are striving for. Doing this will help you stay connected to things that actually matter and things that money and success cannot buy. If you are aware of what really matters in life, then you will think twice before looking down on someone who does not have money or fame.

Also, don’t forget the bad times and the lessons learnt from them. 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Clear Your Mind

The mind loves to chew on problems like a dog chews on a bone. That’s good – it means the mind is looking for a solution. Great job, mind! The problem is, it’s trying to solve problems using the same beliefs and thought habits that created the problems in the first place! Those mental habits created the vibration that attracted the situation. Now the mind skips around on the same thoughts, like a scratched CD and it can’t get out of the infinite loop.

The mind isn’t used to getting stuck in this infinite loop when you’re thinking something positive – but you can train it to!

You don’t notice this background noise most of the time. But sometimes negative thoughts jump into your awareness with a “pick me, pick me!” urgency. Frustrating! You know you can’t solve the problem (if you could, you would have) yet you can’t stop thinking about it!

Some of the ways in which you can clear you mind are mentioned below. However, if there is anything else you would wish to do, knock yourself out but at the same time, do mention them in the comments below 🙂

  1. Meditation is your best tool for clearing your mind and making room for silence. Mental silence is like an empty vessel into which you can pour the wisdom of your soul; new thought habits; positivity; love; and present-focus. During meditation, choose a point of focus and become fascinated with it. 
  2. Take a walk – but don’t use the time to worry! Practice walking meditation, where you’re acutely aware of the mechanics of walking; or go walk with someone who is upbeat and positive!
  3.  Immerse yourself in what you love to do and/or in something challenging. Your mind goes silent when you are absorbed in some activity that you find engrossing or challenging.
  4. Clear your space. Your physical spaces (home, car, work) are a direct reflection of your mental state. Too many thoughts in your mind? Look at the state of your desk, your kitchen, the back seat of your car, your bedroom floor… clear the physical clutter and you will create free energy flow in your surroundings; this will help you clear the mental clutter as well! It’s a very liberating feeling to let go of things and thoughts!
FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – WIP (Work in Progress)

“I am a work in progress”

This isn’t a new phrase, I didn’t write it, it’s a quote most of us have heard and probably said about ourselves at some point in our lives, the meaning is quite simple, we just aren’t the finished article, we are still learning, there is much to learn before we are complete.

But the thing is, we will never be complete, as perfection is the only state of complete and the only thing that is perfect is God, we can’t become God, we will never attain a level close to God, we are human, we are forever destined to fall short of God’s expectations for us, but he loves us anyway.

“but I have to work in order to progress”

But just because we are all a work in progress, it shouldn’t just stop, unless we let it, we are human after all, we can easily become complacent, I know I have too many times in my life and I continue to allow complacency a part in my life everyday, I know that, I have to overcome that, but I like many just become comfortable with certain aspects of my daily existence that I fall short of my expectation’s, never mind God’s.

To progress takes effort, we cannot move forward just be standing still, if we stand still not moving it takes an outside influence to move, a push, the wind and even God, but they are only small cumbersome steps taken in resentment, not open hearted, we resist and when we resist the lessons often bypass us.

Quite simply, to be the work in progress, we have to put in the effort, we have to work in order to progress, we have to embrace that which is before us and resolve to approach it with all we have and all we are, only then can we progress, without that we just stand still or stutter slowly forward.

This goes for anything in life, it goes for anything we do or learn, unless we put the effort in progress will be slow or none existent. 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Zip It!!

We all have huge personal goal we want to accomplish: A big, challenging, amazing goal. We think about it, dream about it, obsess about it… but we never accomplish it. That could be because we also talked about it, because according to some studies, people who talk about their intentions are less likely to follow through on those intentions.

Announcing your plans to others satisfies your self-identity just enough that you’re less motivated to do the hard work needed.

Once you’ve told people of your intentions, it gives you a “premature sense of completeness”. You have “identity symbols” in your brain that make your self-image. Since both actions and talk create symbols in your brain, talking satisfies the brain enough that it “neglects the pursuit of further symbols.

Psychological researchers have been studying the intention-behavior gap, and the stuff that affects it, since the 1920’s. Basically, we as humans like to dream. A lot. We have tons and tons of dreams, goals, and fantasies. We are also (usually) smart enough to see the first steps we need to take in order to achieve these goals. Oftentimes the first step is right in front of us, whether it be a quick phone call or an application.

There’s another thing about us humans, though; we seem to have trouble actually taking that first step. And the steps after that? Friggin’… FORGET IT! Those steps are taken even less frequently. That’s why those psychologists call it the intention-behavior gap.

It may seem unnatural to keep your intentions and plans private, but try it. If you do tell a friend, make sure not to say it as a satisfaction (“I’ve joined a gym and bought running shoes. I’m going to do it!”), but as dissatisfaction (“I want to lose 20 pounds, so kick my ass if I don’t, OK?”)

 

 

 

 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Wonderful Life

It happens to the best of us: Sometimes it seems like our lives don’t matter. Whether you are in the depths of depression or have survived an assault on who you are, or even if you are just having a really bad day, sometimes it seems like, “My life doesn’t matter.” However: That thought is wrong. Your life does matter.

And do you know why your life is wonderful right now? Here’s why:

  1. There is food in your stomach. – The next time you eat something (which probably won’t be very far off), give thanks that every time you’re feeling hungry, you can eat at any time. There are many people around the world, for whom a full belly is a rarity. So remember to never take for granted the fact that for you, a hot dinner is never far away.
  2. You get to sleep every night in a warm and comfortable bed. – Not everyone gets to come home from a long, exhausting day and then throw themselves down onto their comfy bed. Again, this is something so simple and (to us) mundane, but when you really think about it – what would it be like to not have a bed to sleep in every night? For many that is a very real reality. So as you lay, tucked up and comfy in your bed tonight – take note of how good it feels.
  3. You are loved. – At times you may try to convince yourself otherwise, but there’s no denying it – there are people who love you. Be it family, friends, a partner, your co-workers or neighbors…you are loved…and this is arguably the most significant blessing in your life. Love is the very essence of life – so make sure to never squander or take it for granted.
  4. You have choices. – Perhaps the biggest luxury we take for granted in our modern society, is our freedom of CHOICE. What you want to do for a career…which passions you pursue…who you choose to love…when you have children…which area you live in…your education…our lives are entirely filled with choices.
  5. You have a roof over your head and security. – When you think about it, the roof over your head at night keeping you dry and safe is definitely something to smile about. You are protected from the elements, safe to sleep soundly in the protection of four walls. What’s not to appreciate?
  6. There is oxygen in your lungs. – An obvious one, but surely something to smile about? After all, without a continuous and fresh supply of oxygen, where would you be? Breathing is something we all take for granted, until perhaps, we aren’t able to any more. Plus, you can transform your entire day with a single breath.

So go on, celebrate this extraordinary gift that gets so little of our attention. Stay Happy. Stay Blessed. You are universal consciousness.

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Not Allowed

The only thing standing in your way towards happiness is you; no one else is allowed to set up limits for you but you, nor there should be. No matter what kind of problems you’re dealing with, how old you are or where you live, you deserve to be happy – it’s as simple as that. It’s time to face the fact that you’re in control of your future, and finally do something about it!

  1. Give up unresolved relationships – Every person in the world has their past, and that’s something you can’t change. But, it’s not like you can’t deal with it and move on, right? A huge part of the past that’s dragging us down is usually related to romantic relationships. It’s hard on all of us to accept a certain fact, and stop wondering how all that effort has gone to waste. In order to make room for happiness in your life, you need to give up dwelling on the past, and start thinking about the bright future that’s in front of you.
  2. Overcome Limiting Beliefs – The key difference between the life you’re living now versus the life you were meant to live comes down to your own limiting beliefs. A limited belief is a belief that dis-empowers you from the life you want. Sometimes these beliefs are so ingrained in our subconscious that we don’t even realize they are guiding our behavior. So, guess what, if you keep telling yourself that you will never be “x” or that you aren’t that “type” of person, that is exactly the result that you will get.
  3. The Approval Of Others – Who gives a sh*t what other people think? If you are happy with the decisions you have made, then whose business is that but your own? Think of how much you could achieve if you stopped letting other people’s opinions dictate the way you live your life. Do you, and engage in whatever actions you think might better your life.
  4. Idea Of A Perfect Partner – There is no such thing as a perfect partner, so throw your checklist out the window. In life, what prevents us from moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our minds. Find the right person for you: one that you can love with all your heart, one you feel comfortable with and one that accepts you for the person you are. The sooner you realize there isn’t one perfect person out there for you, the better off you will be.
  5. Perfect Life – Just like there is no perfect partner, there is also not a perfect life. Life is what you put into it, so if you are not willing to work hard and put forth effort, you will most likely end up miserable. The choices you make will directly reflect the life you lead. It is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.
  6. The Need For Control – Sometimes you just need to let life happen the way it is meant to. You cannot spend your life stressing about things that are outside of your control. Try to relax, and let things play out naturally. Embrace the unknown, as this is where you will be surprised the most. Let yourself be whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and relish in the excitement they bring.

Remember, life can either be something you embrace or something you hide from. Stop making things complicated and just live your life. It would be so much simpler and more enjoyable if we learned to just release certain limitations.

 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Gratitude

The importance of gratitude: Please be thankful, it’s for your own good.

Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness about something you have been given. 

Technically, taking in the good is the deliberate internalization of positive experience in implicit memory.  It involves four simple steps:

  1. Notice feelings of gratitude or gladness that are already present in your mind. Perhaps there is a background sense of being glad about where you live, or you’re pleased that your child is in a good mood today. As you go about your day, be particularly attentive to any feelings of gratitude or gladness that naturally arise. Also create an experience of gratitude or gladness by look- ing for things to feel grateful for or glad about. They could be seemingly small or simple. Perhaps something nice happened recently, or you have enough food, or you have a friend who likes you. 
  2.  Open to gratitude and gladness. Explore what these experiences are like, and keep them going. Gently help them become as rich and intense as possible, filling your whole body. Open to related feelings such as joy, ease, or fulfillment. Embody gratitude and gladness by smiling, bouncing up and down in delight, softening your face, or reaching your arms out to the world.
  3. Let gratitude and gladness sink into you. As you give your mind to gratitude and gladness, let yourself feel content, that there is already plenty for you in this moment, and that you don’t need to chase after or hold on to anything more.
  4. Be aware of gratitude and gladness and feelings of disappointment or loss. Keep making gratitude and gladness more prominent, and if you get carried away by the negative mate- rial, drop it from awareness. Sense that gratitude and glad- ness are connecting with any disappointment or loss. Imagine that some of the many things you feel grateful for or glad about are showering down into and gradually filling any emptiness inside. Perhaps gratitude and gladness are touching young parts of you that felt unhappy. Then, when you want, let go of any negative material and stay with the sense of gratitude and glad- ness. A few times over the next hour, a dozen or more seconds at a time, be aware of only neutral or positive material—such as a sense of gratitude and gladness—while also bringing to mind a neutral trigger of disappointment or loss.
FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Appreciate

Happiness Is Appreciating The Simple Things In Life. 

The simple things in life are like those stars that shine on a clear night. They’re always there, surrounding us, offering their subtle magic; however, it’s not every day that we stop to look at them and remember that they exist.

Only when life gives us a small or big setback, do we suddenly appreciate what really builds our hearts, what constitutes each of these internal lines that create music and give meaning to our existence.

The main thing is that the key is not to lead a simple life, it is keeping simple thoughts and knowing what is important, what really makes our heart happy and identifies us. From there, all of us are free to build our own micro- universes. Finding pleasure in simplicity is an attitude.  Not all people know how to enjoy the simple things that life offers. Perhaps because some are unable to see them, and others because do not appreciate them and are more inclined toward material attachment, for instant gratification, which does not last. 

If nothing above is making sense, then this will definately. We have to be aware of what our heart tells us. For example, working longer hours may give you the opportunity to have more things, but you are aware that despite everything, you prefer to invest that time in your family.

Living a full life is understanding that every effort is worthwhile, because everything you do makes you happy and gives happiness to your loved ones.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Unspoken Words

 

When old age sets in and I am nearing the end of my time on this earth, I know I will have regrets. I am human. But, I will also know that I tried as best I could to lead an honest life. To touch the lives of both stranger and friend.  That those I loved – knew it with all their heart and those I had lost along the way would always
 know that I had a special place in my heart reserved just for them.
  I had loved. I had lost. But in the end – I won’t regret one single second of it. 
~J.V. Manning

I know that I have done a lot of things right in life. I also know that I have done a lot of things wrong. I have missed opportunities. I have missed chances. I already have regrets. Some I can do something about and others – I can’t. I regret not being able to help everyone I have wanted to. I regret not trying harder in certain situations. I regret not letting go sooner in others. I regret not following my instincts at some very key points in life. However, one thing I regret the most is all the times my words failed. Words spoken for sure, but more so, those I let die upon my tongue.

Life is simply too short. Stop holding on to words that need to be spoken. Stop allowing yourself to let them stay trapped in your mind. If you have the chance – take it. Be honest with those you care about. Good or bad. Speak the words of your soul. Those words are the spark of your very existence. Speak them now or forever hold your peace. Though in my experience – that peace is elusive and the regret of not opening your mouth – holds strong.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Adrenaline

Every adrenaline junkie knows the feeling: Heart pounding. Hands trembling. Blood racing. And then all of a sudden—flying. Plunging through the air, 18,000 feet above the earth, clinging to a parachute that could by all means fail.  Or being strapped into a zero-gravity roller coaster and preparing to whirl upside down, again and again. Thrill-seekers crave that rush; they thrive on it.

It’s the excitement. It makes things interesting, keeps you going. When this life is over, you want to be able to look back and say, ‘I lived.’ Life is a daring adventure, or it is nothing.

Great Leaders know all about adrenaline (although they likely don’t know it by name) they simply know that as they’ve traveled their own journeys, they acknowledge the danger and risk in everything they do and weigh that against their motivation to succeed.

These Leaders – Explorers – Visionaries, seldom find success quickly (over night). They use the “How do you eat an elephant?” theory by taking one bite at a time, knowing that with each step forward, they come closer to the goal.

Other people seldom notice these folks until they appear “suddenly” at the TOP, and it is then (and ONLY then) that everyone is AMAZED at their bravery and greatness. These folks take “CALCULATED RISKS” because, for them, mission accomplishment is more important than bravado, heroism, fame, fortune.

So whatever it takes to get that adrenaline pumping in your veins because this is the drug which will keep you alive in a long haul.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Whatever It Takes

A WHATEVER IT TAKES mentality means exactly what it sounds like.  It means that I’ll do “whatever it takes” to get the job done.  Sometimes I won’t need to go to such extreme measures; but sometimes I will.  The question is: “how far are you willing to go to get the job done?”

This kind of attitude is missing today. Too many have lost that fighting spirit when it comes to the hard battles of life – especially the spiritual life.

  • Are you willing to do whatever it takes to fix your relationships and become the person that you know you need to be?  Or will you quit after just saying you tried your best?
  • Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get into shape – even if that means cutting out some of the comforts you’ve gotten used to? 
  • Are you willing to do whatever it takes to live pure in the midst of a very impure world?  I know it won’t be easy and there’s a lot of temptation out there, but you are going to lie down and quit, or stand up and fight?

“If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.  And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”  (Matthew 5:29-30)

WOW!  Now that’s what it means to do whatever it takes.  God wasn’t messing around here.  He didn’t beat around the bush.  He said it plain and simple: you have a problem and you need to attack that problem and you must be willing to do whatever it takes to defeat it.

And while the cost of doing so might be high, the consequences of not doing so are even higher.

So what does :Whatever it takes mentality means to you.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – The Truth

There is only one Truth, but whose is it anyways??

All faith is false, all faith is true

Truth is the shattered mirror strown

In myriad bits; while each believes

His little bit the whole to own

~ Richard Francis Burton

As a person my opinion is simply my opinion. I can empathise and try to understand and feel what it’s like for someone else, but although I can come close, I can never know for sure exactly how a person is experiencing the world. I hold my own piece of mirror, and they hold theirs. Over time those experiences can get blurred and become less clear, meaning it can be difficult to remember the truth of exactly what happened. However most important is how one respond to the memories one do have, and how it affects their life now.

Once we accept that truth is not this fixed thing to be found and clung onto, it becomes easier to accept that others hold different truths, and that no matter how much we may disagree with them, no-one has a monopoly on the truth. For us as individuals it also gives space for hope that some of the negative truths we cling to may not be so fixed. A person might firmly hold the belief that they must never feel sad, as letting in even a bit of sadness would open the floodgates leading to an overwhelming wave of sadness descending upon them.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – The Signs

We are all psychics. Believe it or not, but its true. We all somehow already know the answers to all the questions we had, have or will have in the future. It is that little voice in our head which we if not always, mostly tend to “Not listen” because we think we know better. But, hell we are so wrong.

So, our intuition sends us signs. You must train your heart as well as your eyes. You must recognize that there are little miracles popping up in your day, special messages to be opened. Opening the heart opens your eyes to these messages from the Divine. The magic will return to your life as you begin to recognize that you are in constant dialogue with the Divine Intelligence. 

Once of the most common signs are “Déjà Vu”. I am sure you all have heard of it or experienced it before. Now I like to believe that there is a spiritual significance to this phenomenon. Although studies suggest that déjà vu is associated with more serious medical conditions, such as schizophrenia, epilepsy, and clinical anxiety. 

Ummm…..well lets not go there. 😉 I am going to believe what I want to believe…..wait, did I just show a sign of being schizophrenic…ummm…ummm…NOOOOOO! Snap! 

I think its all about having an exceptional memory of remembering things in a long run. Also, if the studies of law of attraction is to be believed, one may  have envisioned or played out similar situation in their minds first and then when they happen in real life, we are familiar with it. I mean there are 60K thoughts that run through our mind everyday, anything is possible and the power of mind is unbelievable indeed. 

Summary : I can achieve anything through the power of my mind. 

What do you think? 

 

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Mental Block

A mental block is a form of uncontrollable resistance or discharge, suspected to originate in the brain. IT is defined as the unconscious denial of a thought or an emotion. A mental block appears as a mode of defense, removing from his conscience any representation likely to disrupt him.

Wait…..let me rephrase that for you!

Mental blocks are incredibly irritating. It doesn’t matter whether you are pondering over which cupboard to clean first before the festivities start, trying to push yourself do those extra squats at the gym even when your quadriceps (thigh muscles) and gluteus (hip muscles) are screaming in pain or just trying to get up early in morning so that you can achieve more in a day, sometimes you hit a mental block and can’t go forwards.

The usual solution is simply to take a break. After an hour, a day or a week, you return to the problem afresh and suddenly everything seems clear. You can’t understand what the problem was in the first place: the answer is right there, staring you in the face. This is a fascinating capability of the mind. It’s wonderful that it can solve problems unconsciously while we’re getting on with day-to-day life.

Refuse to quit. This too is a lot easier said than done, but tell yourself daily that you refuse to quit. When you are struggling to get motivated, tell yourself, “I refuse to quit!” When you feel that the hard work is not worth it, tell yourself, “I refuse to quit!” Your mental block may be strong, your mind can be stronger. So, “refuse to quit!”

Challenge yourself. For example, firmly decide that every time you are in the gym or following any other kind of fitness regime, you are going to challenge yourself and push forward harder than the previous workout. A

Break it Up. Once you set a short, obtainable goal, make up your mind and accomplish it. Focus on your goal and do not let any mental blocks prevent that goal from happening. They keep you motivated and focused. Once you attain one goal, then you can start with another one easily.

Well, that was my side of the story. What is yours? Do share your pearls of wisdom.

 

Daily Dose of Inspiration – Feelings

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Feelings

Emotions and feelings may seem to many of us like trivialities—sensations that get in the way of the real work the brain has to do. Humans have a malleable mind; you can whittle it any way you want.

It is very important that you feel good about yourself. How you feel speaks volume about your mood at that point of time. They are a perfect indicator of what you should do. In today’s busy world, you may not get enough time to relax. However, it is not good to remain continuously in stress for a long time. But you are always feeling something or the other. Make Feelings your Anchor.

Make a decision to feel good about yourself and your surrounding at all time. Now, I know its easier said that done, but we all have to start somewhere. Frustrated, demoralised people are more prone to depression and other psychological disorders and often develop suicidal tendencies. So, it’s best to evade all negativities and make it a point to feel good about yourself.

Try some of these : You should always try to keep yourself happy, Be Optimistic, Work on building your self-esteem, Maintain healthy relationship is very important for happiness, Changes are refreshing and always give you something new to explore, Utilize your skills and do things you are good at, Spend time with people you love and doing the things you love, Never compare yourself with others, Create your own style and Do not hesitate to laugh.

Do you have any more suggestions? Please share.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Tomorrow

Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow : Our concepts of time—and how we process it in the brain—are based on our understanding of physical space, with some surprising cultural variations.

The reason procrastination is so difficult to deal with might be tied to our perception of time and the difference between how we see our present and future selves. So even though we know that a year from now we will be the same person we are today, most of us lack any sort of empathy or emotional connection to that future version of ourselves. And so we “delegate” important tasks to our future selves without realizing that present us and future us is the same person. And that person will have to suffer the consequences.

One of the best things we can do is to forgive ourselves for procrastinating. Yes, as naïve as it may sound, it is surprisingly effective. The most useful advice is to stop waiting until we’re in the right mood to perform a certain task. Like Really?, No Really! Hear Me Out. We need to realize that our belief that our emotional state has to match our current task is extremely counterproductive. Ignore how you feel about doing something and just do it.

Don’t agree with me? So, lets here your thoughts then…!!!

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Shut the Fuck Up!

Why are people lazy?

Again, we must go back to motivation. The root word in motivation is motive. To understand any behavior or attitude, you must first consider the two basic human motives.

When you boil it all down the two human motives are:

(1) Avoid Pain

(2) Gain Pleasure.

Your mind links pleasure and/or pain to all life events- persons, places, and things (due to past experience and information from others).

The trick is to discover the links in your mind through honest self-contemplation. If you are honest with yourself and take a little time to think, you will be surprised the positive results and the relatively little time it took for you to discover this information.

Start with your mind. Ask your mind to “Shut the Fuck Up!!”. This is the root to changing your laziness. You must destroy all unproductive links in your mind and develop new and empowering links. Use pain and pleasure to your advantage

Change begins in your mind. If you transform your mind, you can transform your body.

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – I Don’t Care

It’s tough to live a positive life around negative people.

So the best way to protect your energy is to have a “I Don’t Care Attitude”

Dealing with negativity can be quite a downer.  I once had a coworker whose negative energy would wash over me on a daily basis.  In our conversations, she would complain endlessly about everything – work tasks, family, friends, health, and anything else she could think of.  She was also extremely cynical about others, often doubting their intentions and judging them harshly.  Talking to her wasn’t a pleasant experience, to say the least.

Maintaining a level of emotional detachment is vital for keeping stress at a distance.  Not allowing negative people (or anyone for that matter) to put the weight of their inadequacies on your back is vital to your emotional health and happiness.  It all comes down to how you value yourself, and thus believe in yourself.

People who manage their lives effectively are generally those who work internally – i.e. those who know that success and well-being comes from within (internal locus of control).  Negative people generally work externally – i.e. blame others or outside events for everything that does or doesn’t happen (external locus of control).

When your sense of satisfaction and self-worth are derived from the opinions of others, you are no longer in control of your own happiness.  Know this.  When emotionally strong people feel good about something they’ve done, they don’t let anyone’s shallow opinions or spiteful remarks take that away from them.

Truth be told, you’re never as good as everyone says when you win, and you’re never as terrible as they tell you when you lose.  The important thing is what you’ve learned, and what you’re doing with it.

Daily Dose of Inspiration – I Can

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – I Can

You can do anything you put your heart, mind and soul into. Far more than you can imagine. Be fearless. Do it.

Many times in life people are discouraged to do something because its considered ridiculous, unrealistic, or stupid. These all may be true but that doesn’t mean you can’t do them. Anything is possible. If youset your goal and work as hard as you can to complete it you most likely will. And nothing is better than proving someone; who tried to put you down for what you wanted, wrong.

There’s a fine line between independence and stubbornness. It’s a line I cross pretty frequently. I strongly believe that everyone should cross this line frequently. We are not born in this life to be in the safe zone or have a comfortable protected life always. They are important yes, because until you are in an unstable professional and personal environment, you can achieve little beyond your comfort zone. But if you are, then its high time. Persevere, be persistent in achieving the impossible. Face your fears, Don’t give up. Don’t end your life being a mediocre.

Accomplishment is an amazing feeling. As long as you want to accomplish a goal and are willing to put the work in you can. Don’t let anyone put you down and tell you, you can’t. Those who encourage you are the ones you should listen to. I know the feeling when someone tells you, you can’t accomplish something it sort of breaks you down a bit. On the other hand, like I said before nothing is better than proving that person wrong. So as long as you put your mind to something and put the effort in you need to accomplish it you can do anything! Don’t let anyone tell you othewise.

 

 

Daily Dose of Inspiration – Don’t be Stupid

FeaturedDaily Dose of Inspiration – Don’t be Stupid

From social media posts, to traditional blog posts, to webinar announcements, to online “branding” courses, self-titled experts were telling their respective audiences to quit their day job.

These “opt-ins” were promoted by doing what marketers have done all along to sell products, appeal to a person’s emotions, be it their point of pain or simply an interest. This can be easily accomplished by using emotionally triggering words and phrases such as: job frustration, underpaid and overworked, stressed, and my personal favorite, “why work for someone else when you can work for yourself.”

Entrepreneurship is a beautiful thing, but faith and clever posts doesn’t mean the first thing you should do is quit your job. It’s time to end the fantasies and get realistic. Ask yourself few questions.

  1. Have I made an effort to remedy any situations clouding my judgment? – Lets assume that your boss has no clue about the definition of a work-life balance, or the possibility of a clearly defined role is merely a pipe dream. Before you quit, ask yourself whether you’ve made any attempts to resolve these issues. Sometimes, things are not as bad as they look. If you keep on thinking negative about something, nothing good is going to come out of it. Think of the situation as a third person.
  2. What’s my game plan for the future? – Maybe you have a solid business plan drafted for your new venture or have  already solidified a few contacts in your desired field. A solid game plan moving forward makes everything manageable during such a tumultuous time plus it helps managing the finances. But if you are okay with living on the streets, knock yourself out.

     

If you do not have a convincing answer to any of the above questions, then DON’T BE STUPID & DO YOUR JOB.

 

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I am an unrealistic Optimist….??!!….Yes I am and I am proud of it. I get ridiculed often times (actually all the time) and my dear ones try to protect me in any way possible from going overboard in my thoughts and actions. So, from the normal reality of my present life to what one should do to live in this society, such realities are pushed into my brain in a hope that sense would prevail and I would (like everyone else) get into the mode of living a “normal sane life”and tread the path that many before me have followed. But then that little voice inside me, that spark of creativity playfully like a child smiles and tells me “We will make it one day,Girl!! Hold on!!.

I know you must be thinking, “Yea, we got the voice too but we got to go to work tomorrow & everyday for the good part of our lives, work hard, earn money, pay off loans, and dream of a brighter future for our kids”. Well, I say I am no different, I will go to work too, juggle with people, spring in a new idea to my boss and try to get a raise. But hey, how long can you really keep up with that?! Be honest to yourself if not to anyone else.

We all have an alter reality, a creativity which keeps on reminding us of “what ifs?”. No, they aren’t distractions, they are who we really are!!

Now, I am not saying give up your jobs and pursue your passions. We are all scared of doing something different, of…failing..but we are missing out on the experiences our creativity has to offer. Don’t give up on it! Pursue it everyday in any tiny way possible. Nothing is impossible until we give up on it. Make SMART goals for your passions too. Who knows where they will lead us. Have courage, have patience, have faith.

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What do we really want in life..??

FeaturedWhat do we really want in life..??

What do we really want in life. Well, in India, most of the time (till today) our parents answer this question for us. They chose the school we should (well yea..coz at that time we were too busy eating the orange and cola coloured toffees aka “Candies”), they chose the stream we should pursue to make a good career (not trying to sound old, but some of us didn’t have a choice here), graduate and get a great job (after all we don’t want us to be criticised by our parents in front of Uncles and Aunties for not being able to do well in life), get married to a “WELL-SETTLED” person and then do the same things to our kids and the vicious cycle continues.

But, what do we really want.

Don’t think you’re on the right road just because it’s a well-beaten path.” – Author Unknown

Life speaks to us in many ways, and trust me I am not trying to be philosophical here. I can prove it. Well, think about those times when we are getting “Bhand” (pardon my language, but it makes it real) with our friends and we are in that feeling of “I don’t give a *beep* what the world wants me to do”. We talk about stuff which we are passionate about, thing that we want to do in life. We could be an engineer, MBA in profession, or a doctor, but maybe what we really wanted to do in life was “Play Tennis” or “Become a writer” or “Run a business” or “Just get married and raise kids (I have all respect for he mothers in the world, its a tough job to raise kids like us:P). And trust me “Being Bhand” with friends is just one of the many occasions when life really speaks from within you.

Now, either you will ask me “Then, why don’t we do what we really want?” or if you are idealistic aka practical, you will say “Life is not easy ok, you have to earn money”. Well, first things first, I am not trying to say I am a specialist in life, coz if I would have been, I would have been a billionaire already and spending my life on my yacht, traveling to some exotic country, not sitting 12 hours in front of my computer and still earning thousands by the minute. Well, I am not here to give you “Gyan” about why we don’t do what we are so passionate about doing. We all have our reasons starting from “Laziness – Procrastination – Lack of time – Lack of money, Honey!”.

But, a few tips to “Stay happy, even if your life is not perfect” with a disclaimer that these are my views (and I am a little crazy, like really), so you may or may not like or follow them, no hard feelings and also since I have started a blog, well I got to write something.

1. Stop Cribbing – Look, I agree cribbing or venting out your troubles to someone takes the load off your chest and makes your feel lighter. Agreed. But it depends to a large extent on the person who is listening to you. Let things go yaar, life is too short, apologise if you do wrong, say thank you more often, smile or shut up even when the lava is about to burst out from your head.

2. Always believe that something wonderful is going to happen – Very cliche, I know, but what’s wrong in thinking something that gives us a high for a few moments in a day. How about thinking about good moments which bring a smile to your face and looking into the future in a positive way. Negative soch ke bhi kya kar ledge, so atleast be positive about it.

3. If you can’t do anything positive about it, give it time rather than taking hasty decisions and ruining it.

4. Take out time for your passion – I know, no one has time. But hey, we all take out time to have dinner with someone special, or watch some american sitcom season episode back-to-back coz its easier. Take out some time for yourself even if it means earning a little less money.

5. Look back at the greatest accomplishments in your life and remind yourself about them again and again. Its feels good. I don’t have many accomplishment, infact none, but I am glad how far I have come in life (even if its just age wise :P, people die everyday, atleast I am alive :P)that is something to be grateful about.

So why am I writing about all these above things and making it a long boring read?? WHAT’S MY POINT?

The point is simple. Just be happy in life, no matter what the situation, less money, thankless job, too much work load, sleepless nights, Pain in the ass boss, politics, relationships or whatever, just be happy like a mad person (don’t stress too much on mad, we all are anyways our own special brand of crazy). You have a lot of things to be thankful about in life. Be thankful about them. Smile, laugh, be special, be unique. Hell, this is your life, and you can’t spoil it by being negative or too serious.

As I mentioned earlier, these are my opinions only, you can do whatever you want. But if you have read the entire thing and are reading this line, think about what I have written atleast once.