Have you ever wondered where all the nonsense in your mind comes from? This inner talk seems to automatically jump from one subject to another. If you’re like most people, at least some of those thoughts are complaining, blaming, and criticizing. You may mumble to yourself about someone else or “beat yourself up” for things not going the way you wish they would. Read on and I’ll explain what and how this works, and how you can fix it.
Your inner talk or self-talk are thoughts made up of your inner beliefs and desires. Sometimes the thoughts help you sort things out, but much of the time they are a combination of frustrations and worries. Some of your self talk, no doubt, is your analytical mind trying to arrive at the best decisions, other times it is inexplicably besieged with emotions.
For most of us, our mind chatter is so automatic that we don’t even notice all the negativity streaming through our heads. The first thing we need to do is start noticing our thoughts – you’ll probably be quite surprised at the volume, and the content.
For example, if one of your regular thoughts has been “I am such an idiot! I’m always making silly mistakes, everyone must think I’m stupid”, doesn’t need to suddenly become “I am a genius! I do everything perfectly and never make mistakes. People are in awe of me.” Instead, replace it with something like “I always try to do my best, and it’s only human to make mistakes some times. Everyone does. I believe in myself and my abilities.”
Spend some time writing down ideas for more positive statements next to your list of negative thoughts. Again, I find it is much better to write things down, especially in the beginning, as this helps to anchor the ideas in your mind.
Talk to yourself in a positive manner always, because no body can love you more than you can love yourself.