If you are living true to yourself and your inner drivers (and not purposefully trying to hurt others) then you never need to apologise for being yourself. If you are chasing your dream, doing what comes naturally, and being yourself at all times then others just need to accept you for you. If they cannot do that then they are simply not worthy of your time. People who want you to change, or want to belittle your thoughts and dreams, or just want you to stop being yourself are not healthy people to spend your time with. These attitudes are negative and poisonous and they will constantly degrade your life if you allow them to exist around you. Do not do this. Do not let these people and these attitudes in to your life. If people cannot respect you for being true to yourself then they need to be shown the door.

This is not heartless or callous. This is simple fact. Our lives are ultimately an individual experience. We share many of our experiences with others, form relationships and so on but ultimately we are all individuals who see and experience the world in our individual way. We are all individuals operating with our own set of ideas, thoughts and beliefs and as such we should never sacrifice that individualism to please others.

If you are willing to sacrifice your own identity for the sake of others then you are just letting their view of the world, and their ideas and thoughts, take precedence over yours. Why? Why should you take on their values or their set of rules for how to behave? Why does their view mean more than yours?

By changing yourself to suit others you are essentially saying that your own view of yourself is wrong and that others know and understand you better than you do. But it is you, and only you, that lives with yourself 24/7. No-one else sees or experiences the world in the exact same way as you and no-one else is inside your mind, observing and responding to your experiences within the world. That means that no-one else is in a position to ever fully understand you as much as you can understand yourself.

That is not to say that people will never understand you. The basis of forming healthy relationships is that you connect with similar people on various levels and this connection implies a deep understanding of each other. But, as close as you can become with others, and as much as they can learn to understand you, it will never be to the full amount to which you understand yourself. Only you see the world through your eyes, so only you know exactly what is happening within your world.

 

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36 thoughts on “Daily Dose of Inspiration – Unapologetically You

  1. Definitely! Our experience of the world is individual.
    Nevertheless, I think that some flexibility is not totally a bad thing. I mean, our core values shouldn’t be changed (and I don’t think it’s even possible..), but evolving is a pattern of growth and it makes us improve as persons. What do you think?

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    1. Hi B, thank you for a thought provoking question. That human growth and development, whether physical, emotional or spiritual, always progresses through a series of stages.

      From a physical perspective, our sequential maturation begins within the embryo, continues after birth and then fits a pattern of normative development, progressing from infancy to childhood to adolescence to adulthood. But just as we grow up physically, we also mature intellectually, psychologically, morally and spiritually.

      So our spiritual growth—its stages revealed to us by the mystical traditions of the world’s great Faiths—also unfolds in stages as we mature. We move through those stages at our own pace and as a result of our own initiative, but the sequence itself usually progresses along a consistent path, in the same way physical maturation does. Identifying and comprehending those stages allows us to better understand and direct our own spiritual journey.

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  2. This is why I probably will remain single. For some reason, men always want to change me.I am very happy with who I am and refuse to change again for anyone. Compromise is good but when it takes years to remember who you are after a divorce and all your family and friends tell you how nice it is to have you BACK, you know you “compromised” too much. Never again. I love myself just the way I am. I strive to improve BUT for ME.

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  3. Hello Empress,

    It is hard putting aside any relationship when so many are fading. However, not buying in to someone else’s negativity is essential. Hope you have some great mentors and peers surrounding you.

    Thanks,

    Gary

    On Sat, Nov 18, 2017 at 11:08 PM Be Inspired..!! wrote:

    > empress2inspire posted: “If you are living true to yourself and your inner > drivers (and not purposefully trying to hurt others) then you never need to > apologise for being yourself. If you are chasing your dream, doing what > comes naturally, and being yourself at all times then oth” >

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  4. Ah yes, the old dilemma of Universes. Mine, yours and everyone else’s. Be secure in your own integrity and in the integrity of others, but definitely don’t be permissive of realities that are destructive to the common good of all. That is the balancing act. No one has free reign. If my neighbor has a pit bull that bites one of my kids, that pit bull has to go whether my neighbor weeps, throws a fit, prays, pleads for forgiveness or is my best friend. We do not live strictly as individuals, we are individuals that live in families and communities for everyone’s mutual survival for the better. Sometimes we have to give of ourselves for the greater good of all. As the old saying goes, no man is an Island.

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    1. I am not stubborn. I am passionate. I refuse to change my beliefs on certain issues because I feel so passionately about them. However, I have a very open mind. I listen to opinions and input. In fact, I ask for advice more than anyone else I know. Now, whether I alter my beliefs based on your opinion, input, or advice is another story. Some people just know exactly who they are or who they want to be. They shouldn’t be punished for that. Don’t confuse someone having confidence in themselves with stubbornness.

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    1. Hi Andreas, thank you for such kind words. I am glad you liked my writing. It’s important to be yourself because it’s the only version of you that will make you truly happy. Hiding, secrets, and not being able to be yourself is one of the worst things ever for a person. It gives you low self-esteem. You never get to reach that peak in your life. You should always be able to be yourself. Do visit again.

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