Many of us have so many responsibilities in life that we forget to take care of ourselves. And while it’s hard to prioritize something like taking a bath when you have so many other priorities in life, self care is an important aspect of stress management.
There are days when one after the others everything is falling apart by itself and you don’t really understand what is happening. Self care is of utmost importance on these days.
Here are some self care practices for bad days:
- Self – Massage
- Breathing Techniques
- Eat Raw Food
- Unplug by a Certain Hour
- Drink a Glass of Water
- Cleanse your body/face with a wipe.
- Brush your Hair.
- Brush you teeth, or use mouthwash
- Open your blinds/curtains
- Open a Window
- Put on relaxing music
- Watch your favorite film
- Watch a Motivational Ted Talk
- Reach out to a Friend.
- Drink a Warm Drink.
- Change your Clothes
- Put Dirty Clothes in the Laundry Basket
- Colour in or Doodle.
- Stretch your Body
- Make your Bed
- Stroke an Animal
- Do a Brain Dump
- Light a candle/incense or diffuse essential oils.
- Download/use the calm app or headspace.
- Make a Plan to look forward to.
- Write out the positives from your day
Consistency is key. The idea is that the more often you practice the self-care ideas on bad days, the more likely you are to achieve higher functioning days.
Self – compassion is giving yourself the same compassion and kindness that you would give a loved one. Charity begins at home, remember! A common stumbling block when thinking about self-compassion is the belief that it just means letting ourselves off the hook. When we say “it’s only human,” isn’t this just a way to blow off personal responsibility for our actions? But let’s look at this more closely. First of all, isn’t it strange that admitting the fact that we’re flawed human beings is perceived as not being honest with ourselves? Isn’t the honest truth that we are only human?
Let’s look at three main elements of self compassion
- Self -Kindness Vs. Self Judgement : When we as people treat ourselves with more respect and warmth, compared to self-criticism and unrealistic expectations, we can then have a greater understanding and sympathy for our own realities and emotions.
- Common Humanity Vs. Isolation : Suffering is not specific to one individual. As part of the human condition, we are all flawed, mortal, and subject to harsh realities. Understanding and accepting that you aren’t alone in your suffering will help reduce feelings of isolation and bring you to terms with your life in a healthy way.
- Mindfulness Vs. Over Identification : Mindfulness requires the non-judgemental observation of oneself, exactly what is needed in order to avoid exaggerating negative emotions or suppressing them as well. An open and kind observation of negative emotions can be helped when you put your suffering into a larger human perspective, not undermining your own emotions but allowing yourself to be comforted by knowing you’re not alone.
Self-compassion allows us to turn toward and face the difficult feelings that arise when considering our own mistakes and misdeeds, meaning that we can see ourselves more clearly and do what’s needed to make things better.
For me personally clarity is one of these qualities I constantly strive for. And if you are anything like me you know that a clear mind is not only the best tool you can have to work with, but also the basis for living a balanced, conscious life. A clear mind means there aren’t any more open questions, there isn’t anymore noise and tumult going on in your head. It’s a great state to be in and my preferred way to live, at least nowadays. That’s why I value simplicity so much, which is a way of keeping clarity on top of everything. There is power in clarity. It’s a foundational principle that underlies many psychological, philosophical, & self-development concepts. It takes many different forms. A few examples:
- Setting Goals – It is the process of getting clarity on what you want to accomplish.
- Managing Anxiety – It involves identifying & clarifying negative thoughts in order to see them through a more objective lens (cognitive behaviour therapy).
- Drawing Boundaries – It is essential in relationships is how you help others gain clarity about how to treat you.
- Working Productively – it means clearly identifying the mission-critical tasks and doing them.
- Resolving Disagreements – It begins with clarifying the other person’s argument in your own words & getting clarity on the specific points of disagreement.
If you are fuzzy about what you want, your results will be fuzzy as well. Clarity about what you want will only come if you start to define what it really is. Answer the question “What do I want most right now?”. Set one clear and written goal from there. Then develop a simple plan to get there and start with the first step today!
When this anxiety symptom is caused by anxiety and stress, the best way toeliminate it is to recognize it is being caused by an active stress response and/or a body that’s overly stressed. Then, calm yourself down and reduce your body’s stress. As your body calms down, this feeling should subside. Here is how the anxiety manipulates you:
- Self – Doubt : Anxiety makes us question ourselves. Once self-doubt creeps in, anxiety makes it grow and take over how we view ourselves.
- Fear : A big part of anxiety is fear. Anxiety takes what is dear to you and makes you afraid of losing it.
- Worries, what-ifs, and worst-case scenarios : These are closely related to fears. It puts thoughts of the worst-case scenarios on our minds, effectively trapping us.
- Need for Control : We don’t want our fears to manifest. We hate being plagued by constant self-doubt. And we’re weary of our worries. To get rid of them, we focus on them, trying very hard to control them.
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Self – criticism and lack of motivation are two major threats that kill creativity at work. When it seems like you’re doing the same thing day in and day out, the perceived challenge declines and so does your drive for it. So instead of being able to optimise your creativity and come up with innovative ideas, self-criticism and lack of motivation get in the way of performing your best. Here are 6 ways you can conquer both without having to switch jobs or career path:
- Your Perception of Yourself – Your perception of yourself eventually becomes a reality. If you keep telling yourself “you can only do this much”, this severely restricts your creativity and you’re only bound to self – fulfil this prophecy.
- Submit Yourself To a Paradigm Shift – This not only means having to re-shape your mental attitude but also subjecting to new and more exciting environments that stimulate your creativity.
- Forget Your Anxieties – 90% of what you worry remain just that – worries. They’re not realised so why even bother?
- Seize Opportunities to Hone Key Skills – To improve self – confidence, take time to develop critical skills in your job, be open to criticism and learn to critique your own work fairly.
- Find Something Positive or Interesting in every Project – It’s easy to get bored or de-motivated when you fail to see something new or something you like in each task you do.
- Use other Avenues to Unleash Your Creativity – Draw inspiration by engaging in other creative activities outside of work and experience how this surge of creativity eventually flows in what you do in your job.
Get outside your mind. Once you no longer allow the inner critic to get the best of you, move on. Turn your attention to something outside your mind. Feeling the temperature of the air. Feel the weight of your own body. Listen to the mundane sounds around you. Doing this is inherently calming.
Anxiety disorders are common in people of all ages. They can range in severity from mild to debilitating. Thankfully, there is help available for those who suffer from anxiety disorders so they can lead healthy, happy lives. Signs and symptoms of anxiety are very subtle. I have listed here some of the commonly occurring symptoms which can be easily mistaken to be nothing or anything else but anxiety. Here is a list:
- Shortness of Breath – Feeling so anxious causes inability to relax or control breathing.
- Muscle Tension – Panic attacks cause muscles to tighten in the neck, shoulders,s and sometimes the jaw tightens.
- Mind Suddenly Blanks – Inability yo shirt thoughts and mind shuts due to overwhelm and stress.
- Frequently Feeling on Edge – Feeling jumpy, shaky or physically trembling. Constant feeling of potential danger that must be avoided.
- Heart Pounding – Worry, stress, fear and shortness of breath can accelerate heart rate.
- High Blood Pressure – Due to unsettled states, blood pressure can raise to dangerous levels.
- Excessive Sweating – Results from nervousness or panic.
- Insomnia – Inability to sleep when stress creates a continuous loop of racing thoughts.
- Upset Stomach – Persistent nauseous feeling.
- Dizziness – Panic to the point of almost passing out.
- Loss of Appetite – Food is not appealing, sometimes gagging occurs when eating.
- Weak Limbs – Feeling of weakness throughout the body can occur when exhausted from worrying.
- Panic Attacks – Sudden feeling that something terrible is going to happen.
- Nervousness Around People – Overly critical of oneself in social situations. Swelling on future events and what was said long after the event.
- Frequent Bathroom Breaks – Nervousness can upset the bowels and cause uncontrollable bathroom visits.
- Heart Palpitations – Feeling the heart race, flutter, add or skip a beat.
- Compulsive Behaviour – Constantly biting nails, scratching scalp, or other abnormal behaviours due to anxiety.
- Chest Pain – Many who experience a panic attack for the first time believe they are experiencing a heart attack.
- Restlessness – Inability to sit still and must be on the move.
- Migraines – Anxiety increases blood flow and blood flowing to the brain causes severe head pain.
- Uncontrollable Speech – Speaking quickly and without thinking. Stuttering and feeling tongue-twisted are common.
- Itchy Skin – Body reacts to stress by producing an itchy rash or hives.
- Hot or Cold Flashes – When your body is in an upset state, the temperature can waver and change rapidly.
- Muscle Spasm – Nervous system behaves irregularly and causes muscles to twitch.
- Constantly catching a Cold or the Flu – Weakened immune system due to stress causes the body to be susceptible to illness.
If you think that you are, or a loved one is, suffering from an anxiety disorder, you should not wait to get help.
It is seen that a lot of people do just the opposite. They focus on what they don’t have. They train their thoughts on lack, problem such as inability to pay bills, insufficient money to buy a house. This leads to daily struggle to make both ends meet. In other words, by focusing your thoughts on the negatives, all your mental and spiritual energies oblige you by producing conditions leading to more frustration and scarcity.
Affirmations for Money, Wealth and Prosperity are one of the well accepted and also an easy way to train the mind to focus on the positive. These affirmations are a set of positive statements in the present tense which take our mind to what we already have, be ready to receive more while being thankful and grateful to the Universe in providing you in its own unique ways.
Here are few money affirmations for you :
- I am open and ready to receive money NOW.
- Money is attracted to me and needs me to spend it NOW.
- Everything and everyone helps me prosper financially NOW.
- I welcome large sums of money into my life regularly NOW.
- Money comes to me in abundance easily and frequently NOW.
- Money flows into my life in large quantities through multiple sources.
- Everything I spend comes back to me threefold NOW.
- I expect money into my life in unexpected ways NOW.
- I manifest large quantities of money in every action I take NOW.
- Money is flowing to me and I accept it graciously NOW.