Whether you call it random acts of kindness, paying it forward, or good deeds, they are very powerful. That is why almost every religion and culture values and rewards the performance of good deeds.
But what is “Being Good”.
Once you get your definition down, then you have to stick with it wherever you go, no matter what you do. Others will always try to change your definition of “good,” especially when it makes them feel bad about themselves. But you must stand by your own definition, even when others mock you for doing so.
But do it for yourself. Be good to other for yourself. We all crave for that warm and fuzzy feeling we get after doing good deeds.
I am a big believer that doing good, and just being nice to people, begets good treatment in return for the most part. Therefore there is a return, just not necessarily from a particular act or specific relationship. I am not referring to this in a spiritual or cosmic sense. What I mean is that by building a reputation for putting yourself out (whether as an individual or a brand), doing good for others without expectation of something directly in return from that person, and generally being nice will most definitely add to your life in so many ways. People will notice, talk about it, spread the word, and in general most will treat you better, do for you, and watch your back because of the way you treat people.
One good deed everyday…keeps bad karma away :D.
“If we saw reality, we would never be unhappy.” The Buddha
This means that if we looked at life and saw what was actually there from a viewpoint of “I started with nothing and now I have lots” we would experience happiness. Yet we make-up unrealistic expectations of what should be and consequently we experience “not enough”, which has no basis “in reality.” And then we feel bad and experience unhappiness. The latter is incredibly stupid on our part. It is best that we learn how the first is actually true and the latter is false – not as in “positive thinking”, but as in “true reality.” The payoff for doing so is huge! It will immensely alter the quality of your life!!!
“What we are unhappy about is what the story tells us, especially about what it means about us and/or the future. But it is only a story. Seeing through the story and “disappearing” it will create a “that’s just what is so, now what?” viewpoint. And from there you can simply proceed to doing that which will get you more of what you want, from this point forward…and seeing what you already have, and that there is virtually nothing to worry about.”
When was the last time you received a reality slap? We’ve all had plenty of them in our lives: those moments when life suddenly deals us a painful blow. It’s a shock, and it hurts, and it knocks us off balance; we struggle to stay on our feet, and sometimes we fall.
Whenever we encounter a reality gap, it helps to ask ourselves this question: ‘What do I want to stand for in the face of this?’ We can stand for giving up on life, or we can stand for something far more meaningful. We can stand for something that matters, deep in our heart: something that dignifies our suffering and gives us the will and the courage to carry on. Obviously, we can’t turn back time. We can’t undo whatever it is that has happened. But we can choose the attitude we take towards it. Sometimes when we take a stand, we can close the gap, and at other times, obviously we can’t. But the moment we take a stand, we experience vitality; we may not have the reality we want, but we do have the satisfaction of living with purpose.
If you’re going to live from your soul then you have to listen to its wisdom. I believe that most of the drama in our lives manifests when we don’t live in accordance with our inner guidance. Your soul knows what it wants and needs. If you’re not in alignment with it, then you can become off-balance and the outside world then manifests what’s happening on the inside.
Equally, there will be times in your life when your soul is screaming out to you. You know the times when the thoughts resound loudly in your head: “What am I doing?” or “I really should get a grip on my life!” or “I can’t keep living this way!” When you find yourself asking these questions, it’s usually during a particularly busy, emotional, or traumatic time in your life. This is a big clue that your soul is trying to get your attention.
These are the times for Soul Cry Outs. Your soul is yelling at you saying: “Hey! I am here and you haven’t paid any attention to me at all lately!” “I can help!” At times like this, it will send up signals to your psychic and physical senses depositing markers along the way, even in your dreams. We tend to put all of our emphasis on the body with its pleasures and its physical appetites. But the soul also has appetites. The soul longs for union with the universe. Down deep inside every person’s heart is a cry for something, but he doesn’t quite know what it is. Man is a worshiping creature. He instinctively knows that there is something out there somewhere, and he longs to know that something or someone. Your soul longs for vital contact with Universe. Your soul is valuable because it is eternal—it is forever.
Do share your soul cry moments.
Live untamed and unafraid is a recipe for really living life to the full – for really feeling alive day in, day out. It’s about being true to yourself, pushing through your doubts and fears to go after what you really want in life, and living an inspired life that not only has you feel truly alive, but also inspires those around you to really ‘live life’.
But then if it one of the way to living a fulfilling life, then why don’t we follow it? This is because of our untamed mind and then when we fuel it by talking about it. Of the human urges, a great one is the urge to talk. It is believed that all living beings communicate in their respective languages. Humans, however, due to developed intellect and conditioned self, have developed the system of holding elaborate conversations. If you look around you will find most people talking most of the time. A lot that is being talked is not heard. The urge to talk arises directly from the restless mind. Whether such talk is useful or useless, positive or negative is subject to individual interpretation.
You can tame your mind by exerting some mental discipline. Make it a daily morning routine to be still by yourself for a few minutes and experience who you are. Raise your awareness to your inner process and feel your feelings – it won’t KILL you. In fact you will be surprised to notice that the emotional pain is not “unbearable”, unless you try to make it go away easily. Take some time to explore the thoughts behind your feelings.
“The thing always happens that you really believe in; and in the belief in a thing makes it happen.” – Frank Lloyd Wright.
Think of the power of belief, then, as part of our essence. Strive to find that which we strongly believe in and allow that belief to energize and motivate us to take action to achieve our desired goals. If we find that we lack the ability to believe in anything right now, either because we have never felt our beliefs held any weight or we are simply beat down and trying to climb back up after addiction, just give it some time. Allow for the possibility that we can believe in something, and seek guidance and counsel so that we may be able to recognize the first signs of our beginning to believe when they do occur.
Although it is important to be clear about what it is you want to see manifest in your life during your creative visualization sessions, it is equally important to detach from the outcome as you go about your day. By constantly wondering where something is, or why it hasn’t shown up yet, or panicking that it won’t, will just keep it away from you because essentially you are focusing on what you do not have. Attachment neutralizes the power of belief. Tell me, how many times has your telephone rung when you have stared at it in a desperate bid for it to ring? When you already have something, you don’t sit around wondering where it is. In other words, the way to effectively detach from your intended outcome is to truly believe that you have already received it.
In a nutshell, the power of belief is key to creating your ideal reality. You must believe that you already are or have that which you intend in the present moment. The secret to belief is to take your intentions for granted to the point of indifference, not because you do not care if they materialize or not but because you know they already have. When you get into the mindset of being grateful for those things which have already been given to you, including your intentions, you will have learnt the secret to turbo charging the manifestation of your choices from the mental to the physical realm.
How many times have we all tried to manipulate situations and relationships to make them work out the way we wanted? How often have we tried to control people and things we just simply had no control over?
Sometimes if we try as hard as we can — when we are forceful enough or persistent enough — we can get the outcome we want. Or so we think… But how many of us have had the experience of getting that desired outcome, for a time, only to have it blow up in our face? Why does that happen? Because if it doesn’t open — or if it takes too much manipulation or scheming or controlling to keep it open, it’s truly not the door we’re supposed to walk through.
So when to stop or when to give up?
When you are committed to the idea of “not giving up” because that is what we have been told, over and over, is the ultimate sign of weakness. When you have allowed this mantra of “powering through” and “holding on” to keep you locked in a career or a social circle or a continent that does not understand you for years on end. When you know that you no longer love someone, at least not enough to envision any kind of real future with them, and you stay with them anyway because it is the “right” thing to do — no matter how much more it may hurt both of you in the long run — it is time to move on.
They May Forget What You Said, But They Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel.
Want to make friends and build a strong network?
Want to be the person that people want to spend time with?
Want to earn someone’s trust and respect?
Then start caring.
To make someone’s day, all you have to do is stay physically near her while remaining in a state of contentment, humor, compassion or calm. Try getting deeply happy around any loved one, acquaintance or stranger. Refuse to let go of your good mood. You don’t have to say or do anything else. Really. It’ll make your day to see how easily you can make someone else’s. And before you know it, you’ll be soothing entire stressed-out crowds, like the ones you find at food courts and matador conventions.
I spent much of my life wandering about armored against criticism and rejection, unaware that my wary defense appeared to others as inexplicable offense. And since everyone around me was also frightened, their defenses escalated the moment they encountered mine, which in turn ratcheted up to meet theirs, and so on. But pretending other people love you flips the vicious cycle into a virtuous one. So, try and relax, people have other important things to do in life than judge you and even if they do judge you, then who cares anyways, let them. In this way, you cab care for even those who don’t care for you.
So Care More and Worry less and always remember to start caring from yourself!